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A while back I was able to write my feelings and emotions, my thoughts, my sadness.....on here some but on a FB site and in a journal.

I have been feeling very lost for 4 or 6 weeks or so.....probably longer. I am actually forcing myself to type this in tonight. I just have felt empty and no urge to express or communicate.

I do have a couple friends that are very supportive. One is a widow, about the same length of time as me, that is an old school acquaintance. I was communicating with them kind of regular, and it helped. But I have not reached out to them in several weeks. I guess I just feel like I sound like a broken record, saying the same things and not really improving. So I have been under the radar and not using these resources.

Maybe it is a phase???....I dunno. I certainly do not want to remain in this phase. I don't want to turn in on myself and shut out the world. I am not trying to do that. I just struggle to communicate my feelings anymore (with others). Maybe others go through this phase too.

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Comment by oceangirl on March 12, 2016 at 1:29pm

David - yes, I have gone through that feeling as well. My thoughts to you are this: this is how you feel right now, and conversely, this is how you need to feel right now. Your gut and heart are telling you to chill, for whatever reason. Will it change? Yes, it will. Maybe not right away, but it will change. Although I love to talk with people engage (and all that crap, lol), I also have a clear need to be alone with my thoughts. And when I felt as you do, that's what I needed, I see that now. Hugs to you - Marsha

Comment by Hope on March 8, 2016 at 4:59am

DavidB, My mother always said in a challenging situation "This too shall pass" and I want you to know that your feelings are normal. Many of us have struggled with expressing ourselves and for me, its easy to avoid people sometimes and stay in my safe place alone. I am told repeat your story because even if it sounds like a broken record, it is important to say what is real for you. Don't feel like you have to apologize for grief. It is a process that takes time. I am leaning into my pain more and more instead of denying it. Perhaps this will help you. I don't know how long it has been for you but I know there have been many times I felt similar to you. I think your writing on this blog is a good thing..keep saying whatever you feel. Don't deny yourself. Thinking of you this morning

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