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Ending an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

I’m blogging again. This was the hardest post I’ve ever written. It’s about staying in an emotionally abusive relationship because I was so lonely after losing George: Thanks for listening, Debbie

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Comment by Callie2 on October 31, 2017 at 8:03am
Sorry for your experience, just glad you recognized the problem and called it quits. I think it sometimes takes a while for us to see things for what they really are. I was young when I was in an abusive marriage but not having anything to compare it to, it took me a few years to recognize the behavior was not normal. Being in a vulnerable situation, I can understand it may have taken you time. You should never be willing to settle for that, lonely or not! I think it is great when someone finds happiness again, but that involves finding someone that is right for us. I've always had an independent nature, but now at nine years being widowed, I could not have someone telling me what to do. My husband and I were very close but he always gave me space and allowed me to make my own decisions. I hope you will find someone able to given you the respect and love you deserve because if not, staying single may not be such a bad choice.
Comment by Athena53 on October 30, 2017 at 8:27am

Thanks for the cautionary tale.  My first marriage was emotionally abusive, fueled by his alcohol consumption and (probably) bipolar disorder.  Good for you for gathering up the strength to break it off.  There's no such thing as "only" verbal abuse.

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