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I posted this elsewhere but thought I would post it here too.

I have found in talking to others and also in this group that many people don’t like to use the word died or death or dying. They tend to use euphemisms like “passed”, “passed away” or “passed on”. I always say my wife died or she is dead. I found this article particularly interesting in discussing why people do this, especially the part about explaining death to children:

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Comment by Lifeunknown17 on August 6, 2018 at 11:33am

Athena53, had to LOL, at your comment. "expired- as if he were a can of fruit!"  nice.  Thought i'd add my 2cents to this.  I use all those words.  what the difference is, is who im talking to. or typing to. or ?? but they all get used.   depends what your trying to say at that moment to whom ever your telling.  DEAD, died, gone, past, deceased, past away, past on, past over, crossed over, left us, has moved on, they all mean the same thing. that person is no longer breathing and walking around this planet.

Comment by LostandSad on August 5, 2018 at 6:47pm

I can't even say dead or death or dying. I say he went to heaven. 

Comment by MartyG (ver. 2.3) on July 10, 2018 at 1:32pm

Without in any way negating what you say, a sub group of us here are believers. SO "death" and "dying" men different things than to most. Death means an instant presence in the present or intermediary even wit Our Lord...and "dying" does, indeed, mean a very rapid "passing"...or transition to a different state. For a believer, both the save and the damned shed their irately bodies and their soul/spirit either goes to heaven or the other place.

Comment by riet on July 10, 2018 at 11:46am

Whatever word you use, he is still death. And that just means: "he" is gone, "we" don't longer exist, and "me".. who is "me" now ?

This is the cruel reality.  Of course, in my mind I always think about "us", and "he" is never out of my head, not for one moment. But in the end, I now have to live a life without the love of my life, without my best friend.  Whatever you call it.

Sorry , today I have a very bad day, I miss my love very very much.   

Comment by Athena53 on July 9, 2018 at 9:35am

I'm also pretty plain-spoken- I just don't like the sound of "passed".  When working in an office I once got a call from a hospital; they elderly widow of a lawyer who'd worked there had just been admitted, and she must have had his old contact info on her even though he'd died years before.  I informed them that Mr. N was deceased and the response was, "Oh, I'm sorry- I didn't know he'd expired"- as if he were a can of fruit!

My husband Ron died when our granddaughter was two and a half.  She remembered her parents visiting for the last time and Grandpa Ron being in bed, thin and frail.  The next time they came to visit and she came into the bedroom she said, "Grandpa Ron?"  I told her he'd died and he was with Jesus since we're Christians.  She likes to ask me about the rings and the sterling silver charm I wear on a  chain- our wedding bands plus a charm with Ron's fingerprint.  I think she understands "dead" and that's the way it should be.

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