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Fathers Day Thoughts
Vern was such a fabulous father, and on this day set aside to honor fathers, I'm recalling so many special times we had over the years. I know this day is very hard for my widow sisters with young children, children who did not have the opportunity to get to know their wonderful fathers. I hurt deeply for them.
But, honestly, I can assure you there is never a right time to lose someone you love. I was 59 and had 41 years with Vern when he died. Believe me ... it was not enough time. We had a lot of life left to live. So many plans and dreams for our future. And Jer deserved to be able to show Vern all that he will become ... will he marry? ... will there be grandchildren?
My parents are gone, so are Vern's ... oh my goodness ... I just looked at the dates and realized that Vern, Jer and I were each 33 years old when our Dads died. I wonder if that is meaningful ....?
I've been spending some time with introspection since my birthday last month. What is my purpose? What do I have to offer to this world? It feels like what I need to be doing at this point in my life. And along the way I've learned to appreciate those very long and difficult cancer years. Not only did they allow me to truly live our marriage vows, they showed me how strong I am ... because of Vern. I hate that he had to suffer so. I do not have the answer to that big question of 'WHY'? But I know that Vern does ... now ... and that is good enough for me until I join him.
"The truth is you and I are in control of only two things, how we prepare for what might happen, and how we respond to what just happened. The moment when things actually do happen belongs to God." ... from "Produced by Faith" by DeVon Franklin
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Comment by ginadf on June 18, 2012 at 12:27pm
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Again, as always. Thanks for the inspiration. The widows/widowers I have met over the past two years are the most strongest, caring, wisest, loving people i have met in my life. We learn to pass on such hope to others in dispair. And i feel that is part of my purpose now. And you are doing a great job at it right now!!! Watching our loved ones suffer and caring lovingly for them, brings out not only pain, but also compassion for others. And thats what is need more in this world. Dont question what your purpose is, I believe you are fulfilling some of it now. I read in one of Fred blogs, that God gave us life. Half our life was blessed spending it with our spouses, and caring for them. Now the rest of our life is for us, to make the best of it. However that may be. PS. you made a beautiful bride lol
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Comment by LaurieR on June 17, 2012 at 4:31pm -
Dianne I agree I had Ron for 29 years and I am 49. It just is not enough time. Ron died suddenly, he was 54. There was no good-byes. Just he was gone. He was also like Vern a wonderful caring and loving father. I send hugs to you Dianne. I also would like to send hugs to all here who did not yet have kids who may have someday, those who were pregnant when they joined and those who have kids at all.
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