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I guess my up-coming surgery (carpal tunnel surgery on my left hand).. so quite minor and I will be glad to have it done. Had the right one the end of May. My daughter & her husband were still living here. This time my 19 yr old grandson will be here. The surgery will be on a Friday morning.
Molly (my 15 yr old miniature pinscher has developed a heart condition,, controlled by medications, she has also become blind and is adapting well. She can't go down the porch stairs on her own. so I carry her down, she can get up the stairs and in the house on her own. I have set some out door porch mats for guiding her and try not to change things around. I am not sure after surgery if I will be able to carry her down the stairs. I cleared off the deck and went to Home Depot and bought a piece of cheap astro turf. I put it down today and took her out.. and she used it. So all I have to do is hose it off. I have tried to block some things on the deck and she is getting the lay out. I have a rough sisal type mat at the top of the stairs.so she knows where they are, I have a black mat with the "plastic blue grass in the front of the door, so she knows where the opening to the door is by the feel of the mat.
Next week I will be picking up some frozen meals, and things easy to cook. My 19 yr old grandson will be home on Saturday and Sunday to help some, but he is 19..lol and in his room 95% of the time with his TV and video games.
I do get my medications with easy open caps. Trying to figure out as much as I can do without help as much as possible. Thinking of the dogs needs.
The surgery is minor, but will be sore and hand weaker for a few weeks. Missing all the little things John would have done and helped me with.
I had a stroke 9 yrs ago, and was paralyzed on left for a short time, So have done things one handed before. Will try this week to fix some things ahead and freeze so I can pop in the oven. and pick up a few frozen meals.
I do know what to expect, so just trying to make sure things are organized and in place.
For 20 years we were there for each other... so miss the special, caring "little" things we did for each other.
I have even found some disposable "cast " covers I can slip on to shower.
I hate "nagging" and will only ask once or twice for something to get done..
I do have some friends I can call on if needed. A friend is going to bring me home from the hospital, and then grandson will drive me in on Saturday so I can bring my car home.
This really "sucks" not the surgery, I know I will be fine and will manage. guess I am just missing the "little" sharing and thoughtful things, that a partner understands.