I'm brand new here and making my first post. I lost my husband of 47 years two and a half months ago. He became ill and two weeks later spent a week in the hospital, was diagnosed with a perforated colon, renal failure and dementia and was given the shocking news that he had 10 days to live. I told the doctors not to let him know. I arranged hospice care to come a couple of times a week, took him home and took care of him. He was bedridden and unable to do anything for himself so he had to be cared for every couple of hours around the clock. His amazingly strong will proved the doctors wrong; he lived for 46 days. I'd known this man for 51 years. We met when I was 18 and he was 31. The age difference was never an issue. We married in 1970, had a son in 1986, a daughter in 1991.
How can it be that he's not here anymore? He'd always been in charge, taking care of everything all of our married life. The most intelligent, confident, practical and honest person I've ever known. A philosopher who loved the truth and so proud of his education. What am I to do without him? I've been deluged with forms, phone calls and legalities for 11 weeks. Hoping to see an end to that soon so I can get on with planning a new direction and a new life. Our son is developmentally delayed and lives with me and probably always will so I have more than just myself to think about.
I feel fortunate to have found this site and hope to find friends who I can share stories with and learn from. Thank you for taking me in and allowing me to be a part of this group.