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I have run out of interesting things to do. I posted that on my Facebook page and got a mixture of comments. Some people claimed to be very busy, some gave me a run down on what they are  doing to keep occupied, some had some suggestions for me. Our restrictions are lifting a little and so one of the groups I belong to  that were going to be having a picnic in the park on a very rainy day instead booked a table for five in the restaurant of a local Club . One of the ladies said it was her first meal out  in three months. Now large restaurants can have up to 50 diners depending on the floor space so our local restaurants are slowly opening. Smaller cafes can only have ten people still but many have developed a profitable take out trade. My church is having  the first service on Sunday but a very regimented one, no singing, no shaking hands, no morning tea, just walk in, walk out and drive away. I suppose we will get used to that way of doing things and at least it is a start.

I did have my daughter Shirley and family come and visit me last Monday for my birthday which was the previous week. It was nice to see them and have them here for a chat after we had been out to lunch together. I heard a bit about how they are living through  the Corona virus. Both Shirley and Craig are working now. Craig because the larger of the Salvation Army Stores he is Chaplain to are opening up now so he can can support the managers and workers. Unfortunately those which are just a shop front are not big enough to open, those more like a factory have the floor space for both staff and customers. Shirley's been an essential worker being the Chaplain of an Aged Care  facility. Naomi is back at High School, Christopher doing University on line. Both seem to be doing well. It was great having the  grandchildren particularly here.

I have been looking at current affair programs and think it is sad so many people are involved in nasty political debates. Whenever that happens I tend to turn away from anything that will produce negative thoughts. I have enough stress without taking in any more negativity. As a former telephone counsellor I have a lot of phone calls from people calling because they are anxious or upset or bewildered by what is going on around them. Some are old friends, some not so old but all are wondering why this is happening, when will it be over, what is going to happen to them if it goes on for much longer. I don't know any more than they do so just listen to their concerns and reflect them back to them. I don't have a crystal ball and although I try to remain positive I'm only human and have my own small concerns. We all have our blue days.

I have a lot of people I think of as friends who are going through hard times, sometimes financially but mostly through health or family worries. We all have some of those, no one is immune to life's ups and downs.. Unfortunately the shut ins in particular do have too much time on their hands and too much time to think about all the things that could go wrong so have become depressed. It is a pity that the social contact that keeps this from happening is absent from our society at present. Some of my friends have family troubles as well. It seems the family bonding is not universal and some families are suddenly realising that they don't like being caged up with people they can usually easily avoid. Oh dear relationships are so complicated  in our modern society.

So some days I am happy to be on my own now with my no one to tell me what to do, how to think, what is missing in my life. On the other hand with social distancing etc unless you have a partner or a family living in your household there is no one to sit close to, no one to hug, no one to show they care about you, I wonder how long social distancing etc is going to last? How long before we can shake hands, give a hug, walk,along arm in arm with a friend. Will we be less outgoing, less gregarious,less generous with our time? I know at all levels of government and business seem to be pushing to get back,to "normal" but what will  a new normal look like. And will we be happy with it? And are we putting ourselves in danger when people do start to forget to wash their hand before serving us as customers? Or stand too close in the queue?

I went to a funeral last week and there was no sign that the people there, most of them elderly,  were aware of social distancing rules as they sat side by side  in rows with their friends in the seats next to them. The funeral director did ask them to consider that they could only sit close to members of their own household but nobody moved. I moved twice as seats filled up. No way do I want to catch this virus and as some people sniffed, maybe from emotion rather than infection, I  found myself wondering if anyone in the room was infected. Isn't it a pity this is now part of my thought patterns, this awareness of who is in the same room I am in when I am out. I found myself doing the same thing at the restaurant, looking around, wondering about the other people there. It is not how I want to be. 

So, isolating, opening the door, looking out, moving out into the community, whatever mode you find yourself in do take care. We as widows and widowers whatever our age and status have people depending on us. Whatever our family situation we can help support our families and each other. I am glad I am part of a group that does care for each other,as much as is possible with the distances between us. I loved the birthday greetings from all over the world I got on my Facebook page. I also got emails, cards in the mail and phone calls. My family members may be scattered but I have friends just a click away on social media.  I know that is not the same as we were used to but in a way with social distancing it is almost as good. God bless you all.

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Comment by only1sue on July 24, 2020 at 9:00pm

Cee, am not sure there is a way of taking control.For me it is going with the flo time but trying to keep cheerful at the same time.I have no way of changing things so I have to adapt as best I can. Being a widow is bad as far as being alone goes but then I only have myself to please.


Comment by Cee on July 24, 2020 at 3:00pm

Maggie May, that is very thoughtful of you to paint the rocks and put them around, I am sure they are noticed and you may never know that one person that really need that one little positive work in their life and at the movement make a difference for them.  Keep doing it as long as you enjoy it.

 Life seems to have it's ups and downs, I was down for a long time and then things started getting better then everything fell apart again and now I am at a total loss as to how to get control of my life.


Comment by only1sue on July 9, 2020 at 2:26pm

Magpie May, that is inspirational. I love painted rocks and HOPE is what we need right now. We had almost convinced ourselves in Australia that Covid-19 was over and then had an outbreak in the. State of Victoria so are all being careful again. Seems it will  be this way for some time yet. However we can have family visits so have a son and granddaughter here this week. If I run out of things to do painting rock could be part of my future hobbies.

Comment by Maggie May on July 9, 2020 at 8:30am

Love your blog. I'm new to this site. Your first line "have run out of interesting things . . . " - at this point, two months, I can only do things that require a very short attention span, and things that are "tear-proof," so I am painting rocks with the word "hope" and leaving them around our community when I walk the dog at night. Each rock is different, so I'm thinking of switching some of them around - I wonder if anyone will notice. I know that my husband would roll his eyes (but secretly be amused), so I'm trying to still make him roll his eyes. I cry all the time, but I still try to do one small thing each day. 

Comment by only1sue on July 7, 2020 at 9:08pm

Doug, as the widow of a Fisheries Officer I want to know what size was that fish was that fish legally caught? Lol. Love fishing stories, so glad you and Tamela and Emily had a great vacation. Your pictures brought back so many memories. Thank you.

Comment by Doug02122014 on July 7, 2020 at 7:54am

Quick update on my small town's  protest on the 4th of July.   According to the Facebook group for my town the 4th. of July protest (a.k.a. parade) took place and from what I could see in the pictures people were social distancing along the protest route.  It also appeared that the protesters were social distancing too.  The parade,  I mean protesters were not as many or long as in past parades. 

I was out of town with my 2nd chapter wife Tamela and oldest daughter Emily who is autistic.  We got a hotel room in the town where Tamela and I met in person for the first time on a blind date.  We went to the Oubache State Park and relived our 1st date (blind) 6 years ago on 7-5-2014.  We had a great time and I came away with a feeling of redemption because I cried my eyes out on the 1st date.

Comment by only1sue on July 5, 2020 at 2:04am

Doug, just wondering if your group went ahead with the Parade? Here we are slowly being given  back our lost privileges,  the difference is we now know they ARE privileges not entitlements. There are so many people who think they can  still do what they used to do pre-Covid, I,am not sure that is going to be possible any time soon.

Comment by only1sue on June 20, 2020 at 9:52pm

Doug, do be careful if you go anywhere where there are a large group of people, a few of our new cases have started from crowds. Somehow we have to get back to some form of "normal" without breaking away from hand washing, sanitising, social distancing etc.  I am a person who likes a hug and I am used to shaking hands in church and it is so hard for me to let that go. It feel like the friendliness factor has been shredded by these new laws BUT if it saves lives then that is good enough reason for me to give up what I want to do in favour of what is safe for others.

Comment by laurajay on June 12, 2020 at 6:30am

Doug0212214     Lot of   confusion,  double  standards  and  varied  interpretations  around the  world.  Interesting  how  things  are  somehow  permitted  as  long  as  what  they  call   them  meet  the  current  criteria  of  what  is  acceptable  within  the  law.  As  if  it's  not  enough  to  grieve  for  loss of loved  ones .  "Protests"  for  July 4 entertaining  social  distancing  are  a  great  example. Parade  for protesting  the  right  to  free  speech  and  to define amendment  rights  sounds  like  it will  soothe  souls without  violence or  lawbreaking.  Hope  it  brings  joy  to  your  community.  Be  safe.  Stay  well. ( I  believe  the  silent  majority  is  fed  up with  all of this.)  I  try  very  hard  to keep  politics  and  religion  from  entering  my  posts  here  because strong  opinions  are  very  stressful  for  everyone    grieving  and  seeking  comfort.  Peace is a  goal  not  easy  to  attain.  Nowadays  we  are  forced  top  look within  in a  new  way  and  seek  understanding.  I  think  it  causes all  of  us  survivors  a real  longing for  what  we  once  had in  our  marriages.  Now  more  than  ever!  

Comment by only1sue on June 12, 2020 at 4:02am

I guess extraordinary circumstances call for unusual solutions. Good luck with your protest. We are  missing out on so many community events. I have a friend coming to stay the last week in June and it is hard to plan excursions when I don't know what will be open, what you have to book for etc. It is winter so our many beautiful beaches are less of an attraction and even outdoor cafes are a chills risk. I think it will be brisk walks and takeaway meals at home. So difficult to know when places will open up again.

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