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This was on my Facebook page this morning. I shared in in a group on Facebook but also thought it worth sharing here.  i would think I would like to be the coffee bean.

 

Grandmother Says...
Carrots, Eggs, or Coffee; "Which are you?"

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it.

After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. "What's the point, grandmother?"

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity--boiling water--but each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her granddaughter.

"When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?

Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?

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Comment by Blue Snow on January 21, 2013 at 7:13am

I love it. Thanks for sharing!

Comment by chez2all on January 20, 2013 at 4:22pm

Thank you for sharing this Janet, it's good to set aside some time and ponder these great questions of life.  Which are you and which would you like to be?  We might all be a bit surprised at how different our answers are to how others see us.  What would they say we were?  Knowing us before our grief and after gives them a different perspective. 

Hugs

Comment by hendrixx2 on January 20, 2013 at 2:23pm

Thanx Janet,

Really reminds me again, that the real is not the common ''boiling water'' but our reaction to it. I think I really need to be sent this message today, thank you so much, wishing you Peace and Healing...

Comment by Lori on January 20, 2013 at 1:29pm

thanks so much janet love this

Comment by bj628(Bonnie) on January 20, 2013 at 1:08pm

Thanks Janet, this is great ♥

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