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My Roses


This is the true story of a man grieving the Love of his Life...He has written 2 books.   I found it moving and as he spoke I was saying YES, YES THAT'S TRUE.   I found this because as a former counsellor I had  been looking at a new diagnosis of grief called Complex Grief.  The 'symptoms' were those  of a Love of your Life grief. But it was being seen as a new category of grief.  I felt deep within that it was important to find out more - because the grief feelings are deep and sometimes unusual.  I felt it was more like a L of Life or Soulmate grief.  If we just diagnose it as a new category of grief it becomes theoretical...and possibly seen as abnormal.  As soon as I had made that decision I  was led to a video interview with a widower who lost the Love of his Life.  He really explained how Soulmate grief is different and why the symptoms are severe.  He did not see it as a diagnosis or illness but a state of normal loving  in a beautiful relationship.  This is a more  healing view than  just using theories and drugs.

The interview is set in Hawaii  - sitting on the beach- and talking about his life with his beloved and what he feels needs to be said in a culture that cannot deal with love and  loss.

I hope it gives you all some peace when you see this. 

The link to Robert Orfali's  video is


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Comment by Lucy on April 23, 2014 at 2:54pm
My Roses, thanks so much for sharing this. Soulmate Grief really speaks to me and explains a lot. I am still so, so sad after two years without my soulmate even though I am trying soooo hard to be happy. Have you or anyone out there read his book on soulmate grief? If so, what did you think? Hugs, Lucy

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