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...... Humbug.


This post is for all of you who are more than relieved that Christmas Day is done.  Over.  Finished.  For 364 more days.


I hope that you experienced what I usually experience:  the actual day that I dread goes a lot smoother than I expect.  The days leading up to it and all of the stress in those days seem to build and build ...... until the day actually arrives.

And then I find that it's over sooner than I expected.

I survived another "big day" ...... and it actually was easier than I anticipated.


December is hard.

There's no doubt about it.  This month is full of all kinds of land mines.  And that's for basically anyone.

Add a widowed person into the mix and you've got 31 days of potential nuclear carnage.

And then there's the extra oh-so-lucky "club" members who's "death day" just happens to fall somewhere in this month.

We'd prefer to just sleep through the holidays, thank you very much.


But here it is, December 26th ...... we made it through another difficult day.

Even though some of us are a little pissed that the Mayans were wrong and we're still here.


We cried our fair share of tears.  And then some.

Our hearts ached for who wasn't there.

But we're still here.

We survived.


And though you may not believe this, and don't like hearing it from "non-members" ...... you are stronger than you think you are.  You can't help it ...... it just happens.  You survive another day ...... you wake up stronger the next.  You may not feel that strength, but it's there. It grows quietly and slowly.  So slowly that it's imperceptible.  Until one day, further down the road.  On that day you'll glance behind you ...... and see how far you've come.  You'll be surprised by the distance.  

And you'll be surprised at the number of people behind you ...... who watch you with hope.


Until that day, just breathe and keep putting one foot in front of the other.  And know that the days leading up to the "hard days" ...... are usually worse than that day itself. 

You've just made it through a pretty difficult one.  So get some rest.  

You deserve it.

And you'll need it ...... because we have another one next week.


Two holidays in one week.

Ho, ho ...... humbug.







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Comment by Dianne in Nevada on December 26, 2012 at 6:55pm

On November 22, I posted "I'm ready for it to be Jan. 2nd ... anyone want to join me?" on my Facebook page.  Still waiting impatiently for it to get here. This year was better, but I'd still prefer to just skip it all.

Comment by Mell22C on December 26, 2012 at 5:54pm

i hate to wish away the days but so glad it's over... it was probably as bad as i imagined it would be but it's still over! 

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