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Learning to do home repairs for me has not been an easy task but one I am tackling.  I had to go to Home Depot this morning to get some drywall tape because I realized that I had 4 outside corners where the metal really should be covered and the drywall compound was just not doing the job.  I only when to get the drywall tape and walked out with a small can of polyurethane for the stair, concrete patch for repairing the concrete foundation when I remove the nails, a small scrapper which I should have gotten the first trip, and a hand sanding block for any minor sanding when I don't need to use the power sanders.

I have to say that taping and bedding is not an easy thing to do and the first corner is okay, second one was a bit better, but the last two were easier to do as I was beginning to get the hang of what I was supposed to be doing.  Now  having to let that dry so I can do a second skim coat on the walls is teaching me a bit of patience in the process because I want to just keep working on it till I can see the end results.

I will say that I have never been the one that goes for frilly girly things.  I was a tomboy growing up and could beat my 3 brothers in just about anything they wanted to do except for sports.  I could climb the highest tree, out shoot them, catch more fish than they could, and just about anything else we needed to do to help out on the farm growing up.  I think the tomboy is beginning to emerge again and I like it.  I like the feeling of knowing that just because I am a woman and a widow on top of that I don't have to depend on someone else to do what is basically considered a man's job in our society when it comes to home repairs around the house.  It is nice to be able to see the accomplishiment of starting something and slowly seeing the progress each day.

I have so many home repair projects but as I am seeing one project begin to take shape that I am now anxious to finish it and move on to the next one.  Each project now only is an accomplishment for me but it is a reminder that this isn't just a house because Jim isn't here to share it but it was and is now my home and one I want to be proud of.  I do want to thank Steph (AuntT) for giving me the inspiration to do this because of all the things she has done on her own and Fred (hendrixx2) for answering my questions in chat some nights and guiding me with his input.

Here are the picturs of what my kitchen looked like before (1st 3) I started this project and then the after (last 2) pictures I took today of what my kitchen looks like as I slowly progress getting it finished.


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Comment by IndiaKai on February 12, 2014 at 4:18pm

Wow. I'm glad I saw this post.  I have a fixer home too and my husband usually did all the repairs.  I stare at everything right now and think how the hell do I to fix that?  How do I start that project? How would Toby want this finished?  I'm slowly coming to the realization that the answers wont magically pop into my head. I need to start moving. Start reading. start asking questions. Start going to the home depots/lowes and get ideas.  Most of all, come to the realization that it is no longer how my husband may have wanted it finished, but more how do I want it finished.  It's such a long process.  I haven't gotten there completely, but slowly I tick away at starting my fixer projects too. So, I appreciate seeing your blog and photos. Thank you

Comment by Kim on February 12, 2014 at 3:44pm

Wow Janet awesome :)

Comment by recent loss(Ron)>>Recently Found on August 5, 2013 at 6:12pm

Good work Janet, Looks like you got it nice and smooth

Comment by hendrixx2 on August 4, 2013 at 1:07pm

hi ((Morg)),

So glad the current wall project is coming along; yes, working the corners can be tricky but like with most things, practice helps. The sense of accomplishment and self sufficiency derived from such endeavors cannot be least I don't think so. Emerging from the fragile backdrop of loss is a difficult prospect to say the least and anything we can do to help that emergence bring us some joy is great. The fact that we can learn many things along the way to completing a project is a bonus...continued success ((Morg))...We should be able to get any info you might need for the other things you have in mind...Pax

Comment by North54 on August 3, 2013 at 7:10am

Very empowering when we do it on our own...looks great!!! Janet.  Know how much work involved, have been doing alot of the same but such a feeling of satisfaction when finished. 

Comment by Morgana (Janet) on August 3, 2013 at 7:02am

Thank you Cathy, Bonnie and Amy.  Yes Amy it is a different kind of satifaction and a good feeling to.  It is a learning experience and one I am finding that I enjoy.  Hugs and love to you all.

Comment by JPSwifeCathy on August 2, 2013 at 7:33pm
Comment by bad ass widow on August 2, 2013 at 5:04pm

Go Janet, Go Janet,  I have found that its a different kind of satisfaction I get now when I finish something on my own.  Its a great feeling !

Comment by bj628(Bonnie) on August 2, 2013 at 3:51pm

Great Job  GF.... you are doing amazing

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