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Hi Again Everyone,

Many of you may have been following my journey during the past nearly seven months since I became a widower and since I joined WV.  All of you are grieving just like me and if you've read my blogs, you may have thought, yeah he can do it, but there is no way I can handle this like he does.  I've always been a very positive person and I've been able to carry on that way even after my wife's death.  However, not everyone is the same - which is good in my opinion - and we handle things differently.  

Try to remember - we are all different!  Some cope with death of a loved one easier than others, some keep it hidden inside, and some can't handle it at all.  The important thing is though that we need to realize that somehow, someway, we will get though it.  To me, just being on WV helps.  The thing I like about WV is that everyone on here understands!  No matter how weird or crazy someone thinks they may be, they are likely to find out, if they post their feelings on WV, that they are actually quite normal.   I especially like being able to write what I'm going through in a blog.  It really helps me to write it down.  And, hopefully, the way I handle things, might help others on WV.  However, it might not, because like I said, we are all different.  We were different before we became widows/widowers and we're still different afterwards.  Just the act of losing a loved one can have a different impact on each of us.  I've always liked to help people and I did a lot of that during my nearly 52 years with my wife and especially during the last few years of her life.  To be honest with you, we both liked to helped people.  Now, I'm just trying to carry on that tradition for the two of us.  If I can help just one person on WV, then that would make me happy and I'm sure it would make my wife happy too.  I wish this journey could be easy for everyone on WV, but it's not.  

The important thing to remember is that it's okay to cry and it's okay to go at our own pace during the journey.  How we handle all the loneliness and issues that we will face during the remainder of our life here on earth is entirely up to us.  Whatever we do, we should do it the way our heart tells us to and handle things the way we feel our loved one would want us to!  I hope your journey, at least for today, is a good one!     

Warm hugs and smiles to all! Stan           

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Comment by courtice on March 5, 2013 at 4:18pm

Well said Stan! We're all different in our grieving process, there's no right or wrong way!

Comment by Moving On on February 27, 2013 at 12:44pm

Lori, thank you for sharing that there can be joy afterwards!  I also love life - always have and always will.  I will forever love my wife, but at the same time, I still have a journey ahead of me! :)  

Comment by Lori on February 27, 2013 at 12:08pm

stan, thank you i have embraced  life, and have found so much joy in it, also so much frustration. WV has been there and these people all do care it's amazing.  Thanks for sharing and for sharing your journey with us all!

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