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I can't believe this shit!
The ex friend who made inappropriate advances to me and I had to sever ties w/ has told our tight group of friends that I needed time and space to grieve so that's why they've been away. I am so mad at him. I needed time and space away from him because he violated our friendship. One of the women in the group called me, left a message saying she knows I've requested time and space but she really wants to talk to me to make sure I'm ok? I had no idea he had told the group that. He's such a freaking moron!! I told her everything and evidently he did the same thing to her after his own wife died and she was trying to be a supportive friend to him in his time of grief;/ Another guy friend of ours was in town the other week and came for a visit. I told him what our ex friend did to me and he also was not surprised because the guy did the same thing to this guys wife when this guy was stationed in Germany and his wife was here. Needless to say, I did the right thing by cutting him out of my life. I've needed my friends and this guy takes it upon himself to put distance between me and them. I hate him! I know that hate is such a strong word that I rarely use but it stands;/
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Comment by AEDforever (Ali) on September 5, 2012 at 8:44pm -
Wow honeyspuddin. that guy is a sorry POS. stand your ground and CUT HIM OUT. good job. Make sure you call all your friends and set the record straight.
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Comment by honeys(puddin) on August 31, 2012 at 8:39am
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Predator. That's the word I couldn't think of. I let him have it in my email. No more mr. nice guy from me. I don't recall ever getting this ugly and angry in an email. Ever. I usually will write it, read it several times and edit then maybe save it and sleep on it. Nope. I wrote what I felt at that very moment, read it, added more and sent it off. It felt good. He's blocked now and I'll never see him again. There was that option due to all of our mutual friends but I gave permission for my story to be told to our friends instead of me trying to keep it quiet for his sake. Fuck him. He's done it to 2 other women and it stops now. I've unfriended his daughter and daugher in law off my facebook page as well so there are no ties to me whatsoever. He's too chicken shit to come to my house so that's that. I will phone the police though if he does. He's done pissed me off and that is never pretty;/
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Comment by Lauralee on August 30, 2012 at 10:06pm -
Is there no end to the suffering we must endure? I am very sorry you had this awful thing happen. I have had similar encounters like this a couple of times in my life, the most recent about a month ago myself and it never ceases to amaze me how people exploit vulnerable people. They are predators just like Mariposa pointed out. You have done all the right things in this situation, honeyspuddin, to avoid this behavior in the future from him. He needs to respect the boundaries you have set. Anything further from him would be stalking and there are laws against that.
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Comment by Mariposa on August 30, 2012 at 9:35pm -
I am so sorry you went through this. Some people are just predators- they sense vulnerability and go in to take advantage of the situation without regard to those who are vulnerable. I was groped by my brother-in-law while my husband lay on the couch three feet away, just six days before he died from cancer. Thank God he lives far away. When I went to probate court. my lawyer put his hand on my thigh- I changed lawyers. My husband's supervisor invited to go to Jamaica just three weeks after my husband's death. Is there no decency in this world?
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Comment by Joyce on August 30, 2012 at 9:24pm -
I'm glad you found out how to block his email, maybe now he will get the message. hugs!
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I just figured out how to block an email address so I did it. I also posted to my friends on facebook that I did not request time and space to grieve contrary to what has been said by someone else. I am grieving and I should not have to be going through this shit;/
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Comment by NC Coco on August 30, 2012 at 4:12pm -
Can't you just send his emails to spam? I use gmail and when you send something to the spam folder (or whatever it is) , the rest of his emails will just keep going there and not show up in your inbox.
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He had begun to email me (I don't know how to block email) and I was beginning to reply 1 line replies. Trying to be polite. I am now about to shoot off a scathing email to him abou this crap then figure out how to block email;/ I have cried entirely too much today:(
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Comment by bj628(Bonnie) on August 30, 2012 at 3:44pm -
So sorry, this guy is such a creep... Glad you had the conversation with your friend and they know you need support and friendship. Sounds like this guy tries to "prey" on women when they are voulnarble.
(((((((((((hugs))))))))))
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Comment by LucyGoo on August 30, 2012 at 2:44pm -
So, so, so sorry that all of this has happened to you. The awfulness of some people never ceases to amaze me. At least now you can reconnect with your real friends and know that they weren't avoiding you - they were actually trying to do what they thought you wanted and needed.
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