I'm a few days away from it being 4 months since Jim passed away. A couple people I know and respect came to me last week both with the same concern that I'm not grieving, I'm avoiding. Aside from all the stuff I have had to take care of in the beginning, like we all do, Jim gave me a list of things to do. The first was I couldn't run away, the second make all my appointments and take care of me. Over the last few years I haven't done much of that and he was always worried, so over the last couple months I have constantly doing just that. They both agreed I need to get back on track medically, but their afraid I'm doing so much at one time I'm not allowing myself to grieve and by having so many things to do in a sense I'm running from myself and the emotions. One told me I need to be still to hear and listen. I kind of feel like they may be right but I don't understand why I would be doing it. I've always handled things head on. Any advice or thoughts will be much appreciated. Love and thoughts to you all.