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Introduction
Hi everyone,
I'm Alan, 58, from Anaheim, California. I suddenly and unexpectedly lost my wife Elaine on March 22, and was introduced to this site by a friend. We were happily, or should I say ecstatically, married close to twelve years. This is the hardest thing I've ever gone through, but I know that I have to see my way through it. It didn't take me long to figure out that nobody understands it unless they've been through it, between this site and some others I'm connecting with people that have been great.
Elaine was 53 when she died and we had such big plans for the future. We had an Alaska cruise booked, and rather than fly home, we had a second cruise from Vancouver to Los Angeles booked. We were talking about what we were going to do when I retired. Of course, that's all gone now. We both came out of bad marriages, so knew what we wanted and didn't want, so we got along wonderfully.
Well, that's my story.
Alan
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Comment by AlanRRT on April 25, 2012 at 11:00pm -
Maverick,
Thanks for the nice words. There aren't many on here who's loss is more recent than mine, I pray God's comfort to you. Life has thrown us both curve balls, and we're forced to live in a new reality, that doesn't include our lovley wives. Stick around, this room has been a tremendous help to me.
Alan
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Comment by Susan B on April 24, 2012 at 9:26pm -
Hi Alan, welcome, so glad you found this place quickly, it took me two years to find. My hubby Keith had been retired about 3 months when at 63 he began feeling "tired" it took a blood clot to send him to the ER and a diagnosis of AML. He did well with meds for a few months, but then it came roaring back, and he died 10 months after the initial diagnosis. He had no time to really enjoy his retirement. Now I try to find something to enjoy every day, as I feel I got a gift of life, something he was denied. Those little things keep me going on days I'd rather bury my head under the covers. That's why chose a colorful flower for my avatar. Hope you can find things to bring a spark to your days, it helps us to keep going.
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Comment by Nathan on April 23, 2012 at 11:55pm -
Sorry for your lost Alan. You will find this site very helpful and when down at times, login to the chat menu and there's always members there for you and understand you. Take care and take baby steps.
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Comment by Poppys Girl on April 23, 2012 at 12:07pm -
So sorry for your loss. I am glad you found this site, when the world does not understand, come here as we have walked the path you are on. I too find it the hardest thing I ever gone through. Married for 36 years and he was suddenly gone...we also had plans to grow old together. It has now been 19 months since my husband passed away and I am still on the roller coaster ride of ups and downs. Hugs to you.
God Bless
Vicki
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Comment by kimkirt (KK) on April 21, 2012 at 7:28pm -
Alan, so sorry you have to be here, but glad you found this site. It has been a lifesaver for me! I am sorry for your loss. hugs!
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Comment by Lisa ( Marielee) on April 21, 2012 at 2:30am
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Hi Alan- Sorry you have a reason to be here but glad you found us. This is a wonderful group of people taking a journey (that we all would rather not take) together. Lots of love and support to be found- Join in on chat and don't be afraid to talk- we are all here to listen- I am in Glendale,not to far away. Blessings- Lisa
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Comment by Joyce on April 20, 2012 at 11:27pm -
Hi Alan, welcome. You will find lots of support here. I lost my husband of 22 years in October of 2011 from cancer. We also had lots of plans. You are right the only people who truly understand are those who have gone or are going through it.
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Comment by Krista Westervelt (whoknows) on April 20, 2012 at 10:43pm -
Welcome, Alan. So deeply sorry for your loss. I believe you will find a lot of support and understanding here.
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Comment by jimswife33 (Michelle) on April 20, 2012 at 10:16pm -
Hi Alan, Welcome. Im so sorry for your loss and your reason for being here but Im glad you found us. It truly does help to be among others who get it. Im Michelle, from Corona Ca. I lost my huband of 33 yrs on 12/29/11 to lung cancer. I am absolutely devasted. You are right, this is the hardest thing I have ever done. I hope you find being here as helpful as I have. Loook forward to talking to you more. I hope you find some peace and comfort.
Michelle
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