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I remember my BIL asking me about 2 weeks after Paul died "how are you doing/feeling?"...I replied "ever been drug behind a horse?"...that is how I felt..absolutely beat up.
Beinthemoment...Yes, yes, yes! It is totally normal and very, very common. Sometimes we kick into "autopilot" mode to get things done, work, whatever is necessary. And then maybe nothing is distracting you, and you realize what has happened. It is overwhelming and exhausting and truly painful. Be nice to yourself at these times, tell yourself "i'm greiving", and treat yourself extra nice..whatever that means for you. hot baths, massage, a special treat..whatever it is that can give you a very small bit of comfort. ((Hugs))
I am also newly widowed, I feel the same way alot of the time. Its been 2 months since I lost my wife, and it comes and goes, some days are better than others. I think it will be like this until the "acceptance" stage of grief. I am still not there.
Yes!!! I am 3 months in. My daughter (16) has suffered headaches for the first time in her life, since her daddy died. For myself, I love the challenge of a to do list and a million errands in one day, but it is MUCH harder now. Everything is harder. I get through work fine, but am 5x as tired after. I think grief is like having leg & arm weights on all day. We both find that we are more sensitive to sound and light right now, too. Keep it as simple as you can and take care of you.
Yes im experiencing this ive only been bereaved 9 weeks i was told this is normal to feel physically exhausted
Yes its very normal to feelthis way
I'm at 18 months, in a new relationship (with a widower) and feel that way at times.
-he does too
the key is to be open with yourself about how you're feeling every step of the way.
I am getting the picture that being widowed is going to be hard work every day... but being positive is extremely helpful. hugs
Beinthemoment: Yes it's so normal, I'm at 16 months and I still feel like that most days. Hugs
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