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Hi Everyone, 

Here I sit waiting for the phone to ring.  After being retired for 16 years.  When I retired, I thought all my wife and I had to do was enjoy the good life.  I retired with what I thought was a large enough IRA.  Then, the stock market dropped, and my IRA along with it, dropped, and never recovered.  The stock market has finally recovered, but my IRA didn't,  

The same month my wife passed away, August 2012, my "substantial" I thought IRA ran out and then my wife's Social Security stopped.  So, three whammies all at the same time.  From having enough monthly income for both of us to live on comfortably, I found myself with not enough monthly income for even me to live on.  What savings I had slowly disappeared.    

I started an online business in October 2011, for two reasons, 1) I wanted to have a store where I could help people with their hearing needs, and 2) I was hoping that it would generate just enough income to offset what I knew I would lose when the IRA eventually ran out.  Well, the IRA ran out, but the store hasn't produced enough money to keep feeding our dog and cats, let alone me.  I basically put everything I had, not money, but effort, into the store.  

Last week, I finally bit the dust and decided I had to actively start looking for work.  I turned in an application at our local Walmart store and a few more stores in town.  I figured that at my age of 73 maybe at least I could be a greeter at the Walmart store.  It would be way down from the Project Manager jobs I'd held when I retired, but I was and am willing to take almost any job that will help.  I had a deep-down feeling that I was going to have a tough time getting a job, because a lot of people said that there just isn't a lot of jobs available, especially here in our small town.  

Last night, my youngest son invited me over to his place for dinner.  When I got home about ten o'clock, there was a message on the answering machine saying for me to call Karen at Walmart today for an interview.  I got so excited, that I could hardly sleep last night.  This morning, I called the number and talked to a guy in Personnel.  He said they have nearly seventy openings, the store is in the process of expanding, and he'd have to check and see which position they wanted to interview me for and said he'd call me back.  I was as excited as a retired kangaroo in Australia getting a new front pouch!  That was over five hours ago and I'm still sitting here waiting.  Maybe the call really wasn't real and maybe my wife will call me and tell me lunch is ready.  If either one or both happens, I'll let you know.  

I hope you have a wonderfully peaceful day!  Warm hugs to all! Stan 

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Comment by Moving On on March 31, 2013 at 9:22pm

Lori, Thank you very much for the nice words.  I'm happy that I may have helped some on WV.  I really like helping people and hopefully I can do the same at Walmart.  I would like to invite everyone on WV to visit me at my store.  If you don't see me smiling, then you're in the wrong store! :)  I start at my second career at 9 am tomorrow morning.  I was told that on my first day I will probably put in nine hours.  I believe the first day will consist of orientation only.  This is so amazing to me!  Less than 8 months ago, I was living with my wife, taking care of her, and thinking it would continue for a long time.  Sometimes, life can change quickly and we just have to be ready for the next adventure.  We never really know what's in store for us, we just have to enjoy what we have and continue doing the best we can with what we have.  Many warm and sweet smiles for everyone on WV, Stan  (P.S.  Remember, I'll be thinking about you tomorrow at work!)     

Comment by Lori on March 31, 2013 at 9:03pm

stan, so happy for you!  may you bless all you meet at work as much as you've blessed us here.

Comment by Moving On on March 29, 2013 at 12:29pm

Thank you everyone!  You just don't know how happy this makes me feel to have money coming in again, above just my Social Security, to help make up for some of what I lost!  In August 2012, I lost my wife, lost her Social Security, lost food stamps, lost my IRA, and am on the verge of not having enough money to pay my mortgage.  This is such a relief that I'm having a hard time stopping from jumping up and down.  What a great weekend this is going to be.  I'm shedding a few tears, but they are pure tears of joy!  Hugs to all and to all a happier future, Stan  

Comment by Joyce on March 29, 2013 at 11:45am

Yipee!  I'm so happy for you.  That's great news

Comment by Morgana (Janet) on March 29, 2013 at 11:34am

Congratulations Stan!!!  Good to hear that you will be working.

Comment by Moving On on March 29, 2013 at 11:07am

I just received a call from Walmart and I start there at 9 am Monday morning!!!!!!!  This is a great way to start the Easter weekend and a beautiful way to celebrate Good Friday.  I hope everyone lets the Easter weekend renew your faith in yourself and life.  It's hard getting through what we are given to face when we lose the one we love, but with the right spirit and a willingness to believe, we can do it!  Many warm and wonderful hugs and smiles to everyone on WV, Stan

Comment by Moving On on March 27, 2013 at 11:39am

Job Update as of noon 27 March.  Yesterday, I went to Walmart and was interviewed for the second time and was then given papers for background check and drug test.  So, I'm not really hired by Walmart until those are returned to them and they call me and offer me a job.  I've found information on the Internet saying that they should know withing 72 hours, but also that sometimes it takes longer.  All I can do now is sit here and wait for the phone to ring.  Warm and friendly hugs while I'm waiting to everyone on WV!!  

Comment by smallfish1 (Mariann) on March 27, 2013 at 11:27am

Congratulations Stan.  Hope all goes well at your new job!

Comment by LifesAJourney on March 27, 2013 at 9:57am

Congratulations Stan!! Best wishes on your first day!!

Comment by Moving On on March 26, 2013 at 4:04pm

Thank you all for the nice comments.  Today went a little differently than I expected it to.  I thought i was going over to Walmart at 11 am to fill out paperwork for a background check and get a drug test.  Instead, when I got there, a different guy, whom I'd never met before, came out and said let's go to the back and do your interview.  At that point, I was a little apprehensive.  However, after a very quick interview, that almost seemed more like just something he was supposed to do, he took me back to the service desk and had me fill out the background check paperwork and then he handed me the papers to get the drug test, which I went right over and did.  So, now, I wait to get the phone call to actually start drawing a paycheck, which I'm hoping will be by early next week at the latest.  Yay!  And, I thought I would never go back to work again!  Just shows us all that we should never say "never"!  Warm and happy hugs and smiles to everyone on WV!  May each of your new days be better than the one before, Stan 

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