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Life After Death
Not long after Daves death, my friend gave me the letters he had written before he die. He had written "Live Life" in my letter.
So, not long after Daves death I decided to plan a trip I had been wanting to take for 10 + years, to The Channel Islands for camping,hiking,kayaking and snorkling. I booked it for this month, August, just 11 months after.
Now that I look back on this, I realize that this was a good thing for me to do. It was a focal point to help me to keep going, to have something to look forward to, to somehow honor Daves wishes for me. I went with three other friends. One was a widower friend of mine.
I had a few moments, but they did not stay with me and I was able to process them and move onto the next moment and stay in the day. It was helpful to have another person there who "got it".
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Comment by lovie on August 22, 2012 at 10:36am -
Good for you for being able to "stay in the day"!! I think that is what Dave may have meant when he said "Live Life". Remember him always, but live life with the zest that you two always did. I think we will always have "moments" and we should. We do not want to forget our loves; we want to honor them by continuing on the path of life that we had with them. I hope you will continue to enjoy building the next chapter in your life with much zest and zeal. You have surely shown strength in dealing with 2 losses this year, both involving caregiving which can be so exhausting. I wish you much happiness again as you move forward with the strength that Dave would be so proud of! Take care...Tiffany
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Comment by Joyce on August 22, 2012 at 7:56am -
Oh Sherbear, that's wonderful. Glad you had a good time. Please post more pictures, this one is beautiful!
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Comment by Lisa ( Marielee) on August 22, 2012 at 1:54am
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Special times Sherry- Good for you to do what you love and honor Daves wishes for you . I know things have been tough again lately- missing you and sending hugs and love for continued looking forward for you - Blessings - Lisa
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Comment by janet on August 21, 2012 at 7:08pm -
Gald that you had a good time Sherbear. I know that you talked about it and was looking forward to it. I am so glad you had other to go with you and I am sure having another widow along helped alot.
Hugs sweetie. Love ya.
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Comment by AEDforever (Ali) on August 21, 2012 at 6:27pm -
Good for you Sherbear...good for you. I think, this "action" thing is the way up.
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Comment by chez2all on August 21, 2012 at 7:44am -
Great idea Sherbear...long term planning isn't something we're particularly good at but you have shown the benefits it can have. Love your idea, keep up the good work.
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