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maybe seeing me depresses people?

I say hi to people on the golf course. They look like they're going to cry! I'm trying to be upbeat beause I don't want to be the widow people avoid but my Husband was a life of the party guy. Don't know what to do.

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Comment by grace28 on May 7, 2012 at 4:05pm

I went to see grief counselor today and she said to keep at it, trying to reach out to people; in time they will realize that you want to continue your relationships. They may also be grieving right now. Sounds about  right. Thanks for your responses!

Comment by celestia (Suzanne) on May 7, 2012 at 3:46pm

I think we all go through that to one extent or another. In my experience people were just so awkward and didn't really know how to *deal* with me. I was always so strong and never too outwardly emotional. No one knew what to say to me because in the beginning I was truly inconsolable, but after a time I was just different to them. Like Lisa said. Give it time. Time is the great healer.

Comment by Lisa (lost) Lamb on May 6, 2012 at 4:56pm

I know it's so hard for us to roll with our own emotions when we never know what the people around us are going to do. I'm not real sure how far out you are but it seems the long it's been people around us want to think of us as are old selves. Even though we all know we will never be the same. Just try to show them that your not going to fall apart if they talk to you and hopefully they will start acting like normal people again.

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