I am rolling closer and closer to 1 year, and I find that more and more people are dropping hints and reminders that 1 year is right around the corner. At first it was subtle, hey if you want to come hang out in a couple weeks, let us know. But as the days tick on, the subtlety seems to be disappearing and folks are being more and more overt. I am trying to be kind and not push back. For me, so far anyway, it isn't the day that is actually worrying to me. See for me remembering and taking special note of the day my wife left this world, is no where near as important as remembering the day she first entered it. The fact that they sit 4 days apart on the calendar makes it easier to leave one day behind and go for the one I want. I also know she would prefer it to be celebrated rather than mourned over.
That said, the text messages, the phone calls, the emails...well they do get old rather quickly. After 10 months where I could count on 1 hand the number of contacts, to being 'pestered' that I should remember what happened next month is a bit much. I think for me it is more that they had the opportunity to contact me any time before, but because they want to push this date into my mind they are re-emerging.
Did anyone else experience essentially the same thing, quiet for months but as a special date started to approach suddenly they swarm? I get people are trying to be well meaning and all, but sometimes it feels so much more about them than about me and it gets tiring. Of course as lonely as the months have been, any additional contact even if it is stressful and tiring, is better than nothing, so I will take it.