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Oh Too Soon!
I was at Disney today, walking around with a friend of mine, when I saw a friend of theirs working. He didnt see me but I sure saw him. I blushed and simply looked at him...I felt like a teenager! I didnt have the guts to say hello but i seemed content just to look at him. My friend noticed and said nothing. When we walked away I mumbled "I dont have a shot with him." With stern face my friend says "oh yes you do. If you set your mind to it." I merely shrugged. I'm overweight, I am not attractive at all, I thought. Then I stopped...what the hell?! I'm almost 5 months out! what was I doing? The reaction of seeing that man felt normal, something I hadnt felt in a long time but it is too soon. It's like i should look but not touch. im so confused right now. I'm a woman, damnit, and not a walking dead but why do I feel this is wrong. "Sigh."
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Comment by recent loss(Ron) on October 29, 2012 at 11:02am -
Emy You have a good chance with any guy you see. You are Very pretty and if they don't see it It's there problem
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Comment by janet on October 28, 2012 at 9:39am -
Oh Emy, it is normal to have those feelings. You are human and as Dianne said there is to timeline to follow. Please do not feel guilty for having those feelings. Be gentle with yourself and accept them and know that you are beginning to heal.
If you have a chance read the blog "I am a widow". I printed it off, have it taped to my monitor and read it every day. It is a reminder to be that life is so, so short and it should be enjoyed and celebrated every chance we get.
Peace and Hope... Hugs and love ya.
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Comment by Susan B on October 27, 2012 at 10:20pm -
...it may mean your heart is starting to open; this can be good :-) Go with it, be careful of your heart and realize these flirtations of the mind are not serious, but your spirit longing to be part of the world of "normalcy" again.Congrats! you are human, enjoy the feeling and continue with your grieving.
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Comment by Dianne in Nevada on October 27, 2012 at 8:31pm -
Oh honey - please don't beat yourself up over having normal feelings. It has absolutely nothing to do with how much you loved your John. Actually, I see this as a good sign. An important sign of your healing. Accept it. Appreciate that these feelings are so much better than how you were feeling just a short time ago.
You know there are no rules here. No timelines we must follow before it's ok to move forward into whatever our life is meant to hold. A very good example for you to consider is our Jackie, who met her dear Danny 7 months after her first husband died. Their meeting, their love, was meant to be and they were lucky enough to recognize that and not let anyone or anything stop them from being together.
So maybe it's too soon for you right now ... or maybe it's not. We each have different paths to follow. Just try not to let your concern of what others may think enter your mind. Feel what you feel. Work it around in your head. Listen to your gut. Live your life ♥
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Comment by Lori on October 27, 2012 at 8:18pm -
i think looking and noticing and having normal feelings is great. Not feeling guilty will come. enjoy the moment. :)
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