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Orbiting but still moving.....just enough so I don't crash and burn
I was very a conversation with another widower about this "moving on" business. Many of us may have found ourselves in despair or frustrated with ourselves or people around us because according to "them" we are not moving forward.
Well, we are moving. We are orbiting in another demension then "them" but we are moving. I definately can say I'm not moving along side many if any of "them" but I am mvong along side with many of you.
My orbit looks very different then "their" orbit. Oh, yes, I've been in their orbit, however none of "them" have entered into my orbit.
So, "they" would not know what it's like to move within my orbit.
In discussing our orbits, my friend likened to a commercial where everyone is moving rally fast, except this one person who is moving but very slowly......but they are moving.
Another analogy my friend had was interesting and I resonated with it.
It's like we have been rocketed out to space where we are orbiting around the world watching from afar. We might begin to reenter, gradually, but not to fast for fear we could crash and burn!
So, it's ok if you find yourself just orbiting......you're still moving......it might be sideways, or baclwards at times, a little forward or just drifting....but in your orbit...you are moving.
And when you feel you can begin to reenter into this worlds atmosphere reenter at your own spend.
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Comment by chez2all on October 14, 2012 at 3:18am -
Hi Sherry, love the orbiting analogy...makes so much sense when it's put into terms others can understand. But unfortunately it's always going to be hard for someone in the 'real world' to understand how our orbit can also be real. Thinking of you, Chez
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Comment by hendrixx2 on October 10, 2012 at 10:13am -
Hi Sherbear,
Oh the idea of orbits is just so perfect; and you're right, fast, slow, rising, falling...the point is we're moving, more, we're moving in a plane of one of life's most serious and possibly deepest emotional paths, the loss of a deep intimate relationship...you are so right whey you say we understand about moving in the other orbit, but those there, not understanding this one...perhaps we will be better for it, thanks again, wishing you Peace and Healing...
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Comment by topwag (Becky) on October 9, 2012 at 11:37am -
Sher, I have thought about this so many times. I sometimes feel like I am outside and "they" are all in the inside and I am watching "them" laughing, carrying on and having fun from afar. A very lonely feeling. The world is moving but I am in a different orbit. Such a great analogy.
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Comment by Sunflower37 on October 8, 2012 at 11:57pm -
This makes so much sense. Thanks.
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Comment by bj628(Bonnie) on October 8, 2012 at 11:03pm -
Sher, Thank you... yes orbiting... a great way to put it.. and re-entering slowly.. it is a strange "new" world out there. (((((((((hugs))))))))))0
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Comment by Ava on October 8, 2012 at 10:14pm -
Well said. My mom does not speak English . I will translate this for her because she feels i am moving too slowly. It has been two months and i should stop crying.f
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Comment by Marsha on October 8, 2012 at 10:05pm -
Love this Sherry. Thank you for sharing. Love that we are orbiting. It really does mean a lot to hear this. Helps me understand where I've been at lately. ((((Hugs)))))
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Comment by MissingRKK on October 8, 2012 at 9:53pm -
That really touched me. Thank you.
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Comment by Joyce on October 8, 2012 at 9:33pm -
Oh Sherry, thanks for this. I love this description of orbit, It's perfect for us. I also like how you said we've been in their orbit but they haven't entered into ours. Thanks Sherry.
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Comment by janet on October 8, 2012 at 9:23pm -
Thank you Sherry for this. Like Ali, I also needed to hear that today. There are days I feel like I am moving forward and other days just drifting and not really sure where or what direction. Yes, orbiting is a good description for what we are all going through. Very well said Sherry.
Peace and hope for all of us.
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