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I am so grateful for this online community, one very special friend who totally understands loss, and for my therapist.

All of us know how hard it is to lose a spouse, and if you were lucky enough to have children with him/her, the passing of mother's day or father's day is tough.

In a conversation with a friend and I shared how sad i was this Father's Day, the second one without him and 18 months after losing him, the reply from my friend was "Oh, so you are feeling sorry for yourself." 

WHOA! Those words smarted. Such a lack of compassion and a lack of understanding about the impact of my loss.

I tried to explain my sorrow, but at times words can't convey the depth of the emotion.  And I forgive her because she is a friend but she hasn't been touched by death. She still has both parents, whereas I lost my mom eleven years ago. I lost my husband 18 months ago, and I am raising our teen son.  

I am so appreciative that I can share here and everyone totally "gets it."

Peace, healing and comfort to all of you.

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Comment by Mariposa on July 9, 2013 at 3:08pm

Thanks cupspinner and liz3431.

Comment by cupspinner on July 3, 2013 at 5:15am

"Feeling sorry for yourself".... Hell, yeah.  And that's putting it mildly.  I'm sorry for your loss, and for all of us having to survive those "special dates" and having to endure comments from the clueless.  

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