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"It's going to be a life-long thing." -Lupe's husband

"Like you're never a recovered widow, you're always recovering." -BabushkaD

"Exactly." -Lupe's husband.

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Comment by BabushkaD (Debbie) on January 19, 2017 at 9:23am

cloudwatcher, Babushka was a nickname I got in middle school for the way I wore a bandanna on my head. Someone told me I looked like a little babushka and it stuck! I think you are right, that the more people you love, the more you will grieve, but that doesn't make loving people something to avoid. It just means learning to cope with the grief as you go on with life. Some losses just hit you harder than others.

Comment by cloudwatcher on January 18, 2017 at 6:55pm

I am sorry for your loss.  You are also the you who you were before you were married or a widow.  Who are you, who were you, besides a widow?  Everyone who is over whatever-years-old is always recovering from something. Maybe I would replace the word 'recovering' with Learning or Evolving, because life to me has been a series of painful events and joyful experiences and now I just try to be thankful for whatever can.I am 59 and have been grieving since I was 21 (when my father died) and haver numerous losses after that.  It will never end; the more people you love, the more you will grieve.     Write or paint or sing out your grief or play it on an instrument.  Or get out and socialize.  But enjoy the beauty of you, and your life.  Babushka, why did you choose that name? my grandmother wore one.  I hope / know you will find your inherent strength to get through this.  Now Babushka, you made me think of my Nana and I'm hungry for pirogues.  I wish you all the best. 

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