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A couple months ago, I dropped my phone. The screen protector broke. It did exactly what it was designed to do. (Yay!) Then a couple days later, I dropped it again. (I'm hard on phones y'all.) Unfortunately, it landed on something right between the case and the screen protector, and shattered the screen.

No big deal, I thought to myself, I've destroyed my fair share of Straight Talk phones in the past. I'll just run to Wal-Mart and grab another one, just like I've always done.


You see, I've owned this phone for a relatively long time and it's got a lot of miles on it. A lot of memories in its databanks. And most importantly, it's got the last text conversation between myself and Marcus.

That last time I talked to him...

That last "I love you"...

That message I sent the night he left, saying how I sincerely hoped he didn't suffer...

Yes, supposedly there are apps that will transfer the texts to the new phone. Yes, I plan to install one tonight and try. But even if it's successful, it's not the same.

But while I was on vacation in Branson, the screen protector started chipping away along the cracks it had sustained in the first fall of destruction. The end of this phone was inevitable.

And so, whether I am ready or not, I am moving forward in my Happily Even After. I bought a new phone and a new case last week. I activated the phone this evening. Another thing that must change...

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Comment by Tekwriter on September 15, 2018 at 1:06pm

Oh zavopup, when I cancelled my husbands cell phone I burst out into tears. I was not expecting it. It was just so final and took me by surprise.

Comment by Rainy (Misty) on August 31, 2018 at 2:43am

Oh Shelly, (hugs) I hope you can get everything transferred to the new phone.

Comment by zavopup on August 29, 2018 at 8:58am

It's so difficult to let those things go.  I still have not cancelled my wife's cell phone, even though the voicemail is generic.  It feels like the final reality of the horror of my situation and loss.  I screen shot our last texts over the months before she killed herself, so at least I have that.  I also have sent her last voicemail to my email.  It's small consolation.  It's only been 6 months for me and I still feel like I'm in free fall.

I hope you were able to salvage all of your texts.  

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