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I am wearing a pair of shoes

They are ugly shoes. Uncomfortable shoes. I get funny looks wearing these shoes.

They are looks of sympathy, pity, confused.

I can tell others are glad they are not their shoes.

I can see it in their eyes. They never call about my shoes.

To learn how awful my shoes are would make them uncomfortable.

To truly understand my shoes you must walk in them.

But once you put them on you can never take them off.

I now realize that I am not the only one wearing these shoes.

There are many, may pairs in the world.

Some people like me ache daily as they try to walk in them.

Some people learned how to walk in them so they don’t hurt quite as much.

Some have worn these shoes so long

that some days go by before they think how much they truly hurt.

No one deserves to wear these shoes.


Because of these shoes I am a stronger person.

The shoes have given me the strength to face anything.

They have made me who I am.

I will forever walk in the shoes of a person who has lost a spouse.


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Comment by Morgana (Janet) on January 14, 2016 at 11:49am

Judy this is actually on the back of a t-shirt I ordered from teespring. It does speak volumes and a 

Comment by judy on January 11, 2016 at 7:32am

What a perfect post - thank you Janet for writing this.  It speaks volumes.

Comment by only1sue on January 10, 2016 at 2:13am

How sad but true.

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