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Yesterday for the first time I had to pick between checking a box for "single" or "married" on a form.  I sat there staring at it for the longest time. I couldn't decide what I am! No choice for "widow" was given---isn't that kind of in between being married and single? I still feel married and committed even though I'm alone in the world now. I still feel half of a whole. One pea in a pod made for two. I planned every detail of my husband's funeral with the determination of a five star general, I wrote the eulogy and picked out the headstone all with no hesitations and with the conviction that I knew exactly what the right thing to do was. But it took me twenty minutes of hand wringing to decide how to fill out a damn form!

The Eulogy

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Comment by rodsgurl09 on February 10, 2012 at 8:52pm

I make my own boxes, too. I generally refuse to check the widow box....I make my own box and I put, "Surviving Spouse." It says the same thing, but somehow it sounds better to me. My one true anxiety as far as boxes go is that stupid emergency contact field. Who do I put??? My mother? I'm not 12, for the love of God. Ugh.

Comment by Jackie (lvgma) on February 10, 2012 at 9:05am

@Cyndi you made me laugh...I haven't had to fill out any forms yet, but I like the idea of making my own boxes..who cares if they understand our humor, I do and that's all that counts.

Comment by kimkirt (KK) on February 9, 2012 at 8:39am

Oh I hate that. I especially hate school forms when they have the space for father. What do I put? Nothing? Deceased? Or emergency contact, I hate filling that out too, had to change that on everything, my doctor, my son's school. Yeah, it's a continual battle and these things keep hitting you constantly. Hugs!

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