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I went back to my old neighborhood last week and found that the house Frank and I had built and lived in for almost 25 years had been torn down by the people we sold it to. Makes me sad, first he is gone and now our house is gone. We actually built it all ourselves, it was perfect for the two of us and it was built with love.

Sometimes it seems like I am the only one who remembers him anymore. His family has not contacted me in over a year (4 grown kids, his not mine, his sister, his brother).

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Comment by laurajay on November 20, 2019 at 9:06am

My  childhood  house has  bars  on the  windows  and  doors  now (in the big city)  and the  majestic  elms all succumbed  to  Dutch  elm disease. This in a city  neighborhood  where  we  didn't worry about crime  and locking doors.  Where we  sat  on the  curb  evenings  and  played  endlessly  outside  begging  to  not  have to go  inside~  everything  changes  sooner  or  later.  So sorry  you've  had this  house  experience to add to your loss.

For years  I've  read  here about  stepchildren...others...I  have none  and the vast  majority  have lost communication  with  step  parents  after  their  natural  parent  has  died  even  if they  got along well  with  them  before  the death .  Quite a puzzlement;  I  think  it's  leftover  grief  from  losing  their  birth  parent~ can't feel  too comforting  for  you  but  it is  fairly  common  from  what  I've  read  here.  Life adjustments  can  be stressful  but  I  hope you'll  forgive them  of their  thoughtlessness  and  find  heartfelt  peace  in  your  memories.  

Comment by Tess on November 20, 2019 at 2:36am

I am so sorry Barb. I’m sure it feels like a piece of your history, only appreciated by you and your husband, is gone. The memories cannot be torn down though. They are precious and yours alone. I am sorry about the lack of support from others. It seems there is a time limit that others abide by. Someday, unfortunately, they will understand. 
Hugs to you. 

Comment by dolly on November 19, 2019 at 8:59am

So sorry you had to feel more sadness in seeing your house gone. It must be hard too, not hearing from his gives us so many challenges to face, doesn't it...seems all we can do is try to put one foot in front of the other and enjoy whatever joy and happiness we can still find. My very best wishes for you and my hope for peace and joy for you!

Comment by only1sue on November 18, 2019 at 2:22am

Barb, sorry this has happened. I have lost all the houses I lived in with the exception of one in the same street I lived in when I was 17. I fully expect this one to be bulldozed when I sell it as the house is  in less valuable than the land it is built on. Maybe that is why I have held onto it for much longer than I otherwise would have. The thought of all our hopes and dreams turning into a pile of rubble is daunting but one inevitable.

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