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All of us remember where we were at certain events in our lives.  Who doesn't remember exactly where you were on September 11, 2011?  I remember exactly where I was and what I was doing when my brother called me to tell me he was asking his girlfriend to marry him.


My brother, who I thought was a confirmed bachelor, was going to settle down after only a few months of dating?  I had all these questions for him.  Had they discussed their finances?  Do you really know this person?  Whose house were they going to live in?  Was he crazy?  I accused him of being sappy--too in love to see straight.  I told him he was floating on the clouds with hearts, unicorns, and rainbows all around him.  Snap out of it!


Fast forward one year.  My husband had passed away from a vicious battle with cancer.  My world had changed drastically.  My life no longer had room for missed opportunities or petty differences.  I found myself living life very differently than I had in the past.  No more hesitation.  "Go for it"  was now my mantra. 


If my brother called me today to tell me he wanted to marry his girlfriend, I would have said "Do it!"  I remember the passion that he had trying to convince me that his decision was the right one.  I know now that we only get one chance.  And if this very special lady made my brother this happy, who was I to tell him otherwise? 


I am really glad my brother did not listen to me.  On June 26, 2010, he and his girlfriend got married.  On October 1, 2011, they welcomed a son to their family.  I do believe in happy endings!

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Comment by Patience on July 21, 2013 at 5:23am

(((((Tommi))))  Enjoyed meeting you at CWW!  Really like your photographs too :)

Comment by Lisa (lost) Lamb on October 29, 2011 at 6:09am

I feel the same way you do. I tell anyone that will listen, lifes to short....dont waste it. My husband and I were always looking to the future instead of living for today. Now are todays are gone......and we have no future. Wish we wouldn't of wasted all that time.

Comment by rodsgurl09 on October 28, 2011 at 4:52pm
I know what you mean....I look at everything so much differently now. I"m so sorry for your loss, but glad for your brother's happiness.

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