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I lost my husband of 27 years to lung cancer on June 29, 2012. He fought a hell of a fight for 4years and 3 months. He was the most optimistic joyful person i know. He was always the one that kept me hopeful and optomistic. The last 6 months of his life I watched him change so much physically. He was in intense pain, lost a tremendous amount of weight and the last three months literally fought for each breath. I watched him beg doctors to do more to help him.
Well the last two weeks of his life were spent in the hospital and I watched him loose his fighting spirit, and eventually i lost mine.
I have been fighting every day just to live and "Go On"! I work long hours and the last two weeks have been battling mentally to stay afloat. The season is changing here in Michigan and the weather changes seem like it is making me so depressed. While trying to fight through grief and depression I forgot to make my car payment, was due 19 days ago. Well yesterday i got a reminder that i hadn't paid it. two guys showed up on my porch stating they were there to repossess my vehicle. i had been prompt with every other payment. The car is solely in my husband's name and i guess even when not notified by you, the credit agencies report peoples death to them. I guess when i was 19 days late with the payment the credit union put in place for a repo. What a humiliating experience. I pleaded with them not to take the car and explained the situation. i was standing in the front yard crying and begging them not to take the car that i could give them the money. But they took it! I feel so damn stupid, i had the money in the bank, I just forgot to mail the payment. i felt so degraded, of course neighbors were watching. i should have taken care of my business but my brain isn't quite working as it normally would. Hell some days just getting out of bed are a challenge.
The repo guys and the police told me i could get the car back even though i am not on the loan if on Monday i past the past due pymt and repo fees. I pray that is true. Even though the car was only in his name it was the onlyworking vehicle that we had. i pray they give it back. I am so anxious thinking about it i can barely sit still. i have no transportation now. just want to crawl in a hole. I feel as though everything is falling apart.