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forgive others for they know not what they say
love them for who they are, not for who you want them to be
remember... we didn't know what to say before this happened to us either
Like Dianne said in her post to our sweet Javi..
forgive, be kind to others... we don't know how long we have
Cherish your friends and family. Forgive them, love them and remember to smile towards the heavens because ... they like to see us smile.
Takes a long time but we do learn how to live again. The Grief Changes as time goes by. Last year I couldn't get the last few months out of my mind.. those last few days.. all my F ups, all my failings... all of his suffering..
This year as I passed the date of my dad's birthday and passing I was remembering happier times instead of his last days.. this.is.greif.changing.
As mike's birthday aproaches this saturday the twentieth... I am brought back to happier birthdays.. instead of it being the day I buried my Dad (on Mike's last bday)... I am remembering happier times..
My son and DIL were married the 16th... same day my dad died... on their first anniversary.. Next year I will remember this day as their day first, not the day my Dad left.. THEY deserve to it be THEIR day. They are alive.. giving me grandbabies.. keeping me alive and loved.
my thoughts are scattered.. I'm tired.. it's friday, YAY... but I am doing well.. no crying jags.. just a few teared up moments.. nothing horrible like last year.
Time does help.. it helps.. and forgiveness.. of ourselves and others. I still struggle with forgiving myself, but I am doing a better job at that this year too.
Thanks to all my widow friends here... you all matter to me and will always be in my thoughts and prayers.
Hang in there, life does go on.