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Some changes going on in my house requiring me to clean out a closet...Steve's closet.  When it occurs to me , as it has in the past for those in my life who have gone Home, at the end of your life, the material things that mean anything to anybody can fit in a box (or in this case a large Rubbermaid container).  And these things are no longer important to Steve, but hold some meaning or memory to me and someday Madi.  As this thought runs through my head, I naturally start to cry, even still this morning at the office, I teared up sharing the details of my weekend.
I opened my email and this was my Elder's message of the day:

  Elder's Meditation of the Day - September 30  
"Don't be afraid to cry. It will free your mind of sorrowful thoughts." 
-- Don Talayesva, HOPI 
Human beings function from choice. We can choose to stuff things, or we can choose to let go of things. If we choose to stuff things, then we will feel a heaviness, or sorrow, self pity or fear. Sometimes we feel the need to cry. Sometimes we are taught it is not okay to cry. The creator designed the human being to cry. Crying is a release. This release allows us to let go of thoughts that are not helping us so we can open to new thoughts that will help. Crying is natural for women and men. 

Grandfather, if I need to cry, let me realize it's a natural process and help me to let go.

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Comment by Dianne in Nevada on October 1, 2013 at 4:57am

♥ Kris ... an important reminder.

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