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I’ve gone to four weddings since Cindy passed. The first wedding was at 6 months. It was emotional, but in a good way. I was with family. It was a very “colorful” ceremony. And I knew how much Cindy loved my niece and how happy she was for her. I could feel her there smiling.


The next wedding was just before the one-year anniversary. It didn’t go so well. It was for a coworker that I don’t feel particularly close to. I wasn’t engaged in the ceremony so my mind did wander. There was much sadness for me and I was glad to get out of there.


The third wedding was for Cindy’s nephew. This was at 15 months. They asked me to perform the ceremony and to say some words. I was honored. It was good experience. I am very close to my sister-in-law, her husband and their children (and their children). It was great to be there as a family and in so many ways to share the love and friendship that Cindy and I had in our marriage.


This weekend was Cindy’s niece’s wedding. It was on my sister-in-law’s land, a beautiful mountain setting at 10,000’. I was there with the family all weekend long. Working on the final preparations Friday afternoon and Saturday morning. It was a fairly large wedding.  The ceremony was next to a rustic creek surrounded by incredible peaks. I had fun dancing with family and friends at the reception.


Cindy was on my mind all weekend long. So many great memories of time spent at the cabin with family. I knew that she would be happy for her niece. Certainly some emotional moments for me during the day. As I sat at my table and looked at the table where my son and daughter and their cousins were sitting, I had such a strong feeling of pride and accomplishment.  Cindy and I always tried to put family first and both felt that family is the most important thing in life. I could feel her beaming like I was at the fine individuals that they have become.


There is a quiet place on the land that is dedicated to Cindy. We had a ceremony there 8 months after Cindy passed. Sunday morning I went there and meditated and focused on Cindy. It was good to have that quiet private time.


Irises were always a big part of Cindy’s life and had very special significance for her. The Wild Irises were in full bloom. What an incredible bonus! 

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Comment by wildflower on July 3, 2014 at 5:22pm

going to my niece's wedding on Saturday.  Looking forward to sharing the wedding with family.  Glad to see the picture of iris. They were also my husband's favorite flower.  Brings back good memories.

Comment by Mac on July 1, 2014 at 6:57pm


Glad that they were so kind to you = kisses and hugs. Glad that you are looking forward to the one in two weeks.


Comment by Mac on July 1, 2014 at 5:40am

Thank you so much Lisa!

Comment by Lisa ( Marielee) on June 30, 2014 at 11:04pm

Weddings are so hard Mac - But I am so glad that you had such wonderful memories to cherish with Cindy and enjoyed the gift of the blooming Irises! I know how something like that can touch us in such a special way. Wishing you many more days of sunshine and surrounded by Cindy's love. 

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