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Today I plan on celebrating Dave's 62nd birthday for the first time without him. I've written down some of the things I loved about him and some memories.
I plan on placing this inside a little ziplock baggie along with a birthday card and a small piece of banana bread that a 16 year old young man who loved Dave dearly made in honor of hum. He had always made a loaf for Dave every year because Dave loved it so much.
Happy Birthday to you in Heaven my dear sweet
Gentle giant, Dave Nelson
The things I remember most about you Dave Nelson
You brought dinner over, it was pot roast with veggies. And you didn’t peel the carrots. You told me there are extra minerals and nutrients in the peelings. I never peeled a carrot since then. You even washed the dishes that evening. You poured your heart out to me that night as well.
Our first date out was to see “Never Cry Wolf”.
You lead the collecting of underwear for the Rescue Mission and gave your testimony there as well.
You lead the evangelistic door to door witnessing on Saturdays when we went to Calvary Chapel at Rogers church.
When we went for our first backpacking trip you sent a Western Telegram to my work at the Bank of America. I don’t know where the telegram is. I will try and find it.
When we hiked to Havasupi Cny you packed in a bottle and wrote out the verse on “Love is patient love is kind” and that you were loving me with this kind of love and you addressed it “your friend” so it was before we were married. You sent it down the river for me to see and catch before it went floating away. I still have it and will forever keep it.
I remember the time when you, I and Stephen were together at home, then the Euclid duplex and you started fooling around and sprayed me with the hose through the kitchen window. We ended up having a water fight! It was one of the best times we had together! I felt like a family that day!
You asked me to marry you on New Years eve and had this black box with a candy machine ring in it. At first I thought it was real but then realized it wasn’t. You asked me if I wanted to pick out a ring or have grandmas. Of course I said grandmas.
You bought Turkish Delight and brought it to the movie Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe and passed it around for us to eat at the exact moment that the boy was being tempted with it.
You were so good with people. You listened intently, remembered at least one thing about that person, then, later, you would do something special for that person, remembering that they liked this, or enjoyed that.
You always brought flowers to me, my sister and your West Coast Mom on Christmas, Valentines Day, Birthdays and “just because” days.
This is just a sampling of the many things Iloved about this man and the memories I have.
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Comment by Joyce on June 17, 2012 at 3:21pm Oh Sherbear, beautiful, sending hugs
Comment by Suz on June 16, 2012 at 2:33pm Sherbear,
What an incredible tribute to your husband! He sounds like a wonderful man...thoughtful, bright, creative, kind, spiritual and loving. I have never heard of a man who has sent First Corinthians down the river in a plastic bottle to show their love! Not only did he love you, but he extended his love to the others in your family. You were truly blessed. I wish it could have ended with you growing old together but I believe that someday you will see each other again.
Fondly,
Suz
I failed to mention I'm sending the ziplock baggy up to heaven to him attached to a couple of balloons. Widolw brain and tears must have blurred my vision as I was typing this out.
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