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It's been a difficult, sad and life-altering year.  For the past four months my life has been consumed with settling my husband's estate, taking care of my developmentally delayed son and just getting through each day.  The arrival of November has been urging me to start planning for the holidays.  For the first time ever, my youngest sister just told me that her children have to work on Thanksgiving so her family won't be able to come.  My daughter's boyfriend has been on an out of town job for two months and is expected back by Thanksgiving so, naturally and understandably, she wants to be with him.  My brother and his wife moved out of state a few months ago so this will be their first time to miss the family holiday get-togethers.  My 90 year old mother's mobility is an issue so she and my sister who lives with her will be staying at home.  That leaves just me and my son so I've decided to skip Thanksgiving and look forward to everyone being here for Christmas.  It didn't bother me at first and was even a bit of a relief since not having to plan a Thanksgiving get-together would give me more time to get into the holiday spirit.  Then I allowed a brief negative thought to enter in and wondered if this is the beginning of holidays to come and it'll just be my son and me, not just for Thanksgiving but for Christmas as well.  We're a close knit family and family gatherings are important to us so I don't really see that happening.  Somehow I've wandered far off course with this post and haven't said a word about what I'd intended to talk about - our Christmas tree.  Last week I got a sudden urge to make this an especially grand Christmas for everyone so I bought a 7 1/2 foot tree, a new star topper, some new ornaments and a custom made tree skirt.  I've done almost all of my Christmas shopping and I set up the tree a few days ago.  Now I can't wait for Christmas to get here.  After the year we've had, it's time to end it with something positive, pretty and fun.  If it's OK, I'd post a photo of the tree but I've not figured out how to do that on here yet.

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Comment by Rainy (Misty) on November 12, 2018 at 6:27pm

It's a beautiful Christmas tree!!

Comment by Rainy (Misty) on November 12, 2018 at 11:09am

Peg I'd love to see your tree.  You can save the photo to your computer and use the "Picture icon" at the top left of this box (it will say image when you hover)

or you can go to your My Widville page and scroll down until you see your "My Photos" box on the right and look for + add photos on the lower left corner of the box.  You click that and it will tell you how to upload your beautiful tree!

Comment by Callie2 on November 12, 2018 at 10:26am


I am sometimes alone on holidays, almost always, Thanksgiving. My husband used to make the stuffing and cook the turkey while I took care of the sides. Sure do miss that!  I have one married son and his family does their own thing on Thanksgiving. It’s OK though because I have had to assume a special diet so all the good stuff I can’t have anyway. So, I will find something to do that day and will eat things I know won’t give me problems. I think there may be stores open, if it’s a nice day, maybe I will do a little shopping.

That was a great idea for Christmas. I did similar the first year although mine is just a tabletop tree. I bought new decorations too. IMO, it helped me mentally. As the years clicked by, I am able to incorporate some of the old decorations as memories became less painful. It just takes time. Well, sounds like you’re really ahead of the game with decorating and shopping! I have bought a few things but the older grandkids will probably prefer money or gift cards. Works for me. I don’t like crowds so I try to get done early as possible.

I’m somewhat technologically challenged, but if you go to My Widlife there is a way of posting pics there. Surely there are other ways (places) too you can post a pic. Love to see your tree!

Comment by jayne on November 12, 2018 at 5:38am

hi,its been 6 months some days i think im ok i can do this but no im not there yet,,to see me you might think im okay,i hide it im not, dont have a big family my sister is a in tenneesse im here visiting noe till wed,,, thanksgiving my son will be in pa hunting,,my friends want me at there house for dinner my husband and i went there last year that will be hard,, im thinking od decorating for christmasa a little my husband like to have pretty lites up on house and all maybe i can do it for him...i dont know if i can,,,im do  so much better at work im away from all memories,,,,,we had just moved in to our new down sized home in march 2018 and i had gotton a suv so i could retire in nov and we could do his bucket list,,,but suddenly he had a strike on april 22 and passed on may 3rd  i was thinking he would have to go to rehab for a couple months,,but then he went dowm=n hill fast and passed in the wee hours,,its soo soo hard i try to keep busy i have 2 little dogs,thank god dont know what i would have done  feeling sad to day j,,,jayne

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