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Just a few random thoughts. First of all, I saw "Hope Springs" with a friend yesterday. The acting was wonderful, but I would not recommend it for any of us on this journey of grief. No real objection to the sexy scenes, but it brought forth a great deal of reflections about marriage, in general. It kind of acted as a downer for me for the rest of the day.
Last night, for the first time in a while, I had a decent night's sleep (of course I took a Xanax, but even that doesn't always help). I think I am getting a little better, or contented with my life, but usually, a few good days are followed by one that is not so good. Have finally waded through most of the paper work and that is a huge relief.
Thoughts about the support group I have joined: Have only attended twice, and, so far, don't see where it is doing much good. The bereavement class that preceded it was more helpful, or maybe it was just the stage that I was at at that time. In this support group, there are 2 other widows, both of whom lost their husbands over 2 years ago. The other women have lost their mothers several years ago., as well. I almost feel that this is a social activity for them, and think that I can do just as well with friends or my daughters to talk to. They all are willing to listen to me, and I can't figure what we need a trained moderator or leader for. They do say that they ask you to attend 3 sessions before deciding that it is not for you, so, as of now, only one more to go.
What do the rest of you think of your support groups and has anyone else seen themovie?
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Comment by kimkirt (KK) on August 17, 2012 at 9:28am -
Susan J - I have noticed that about Hallmark movies, I had to stop watching the Christmas ones this past Christmas, because it seemed they were all widows/ers! Maybe this Christmas I will be able to watch.
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Comment by Lauralee on August 16, 2012 at 10:10pm -
I could not find any widow support group where I live. I started a bereavement support group 2 weeks ago and 2 women attended the first meeting but both of them were not widows. They both did not show up for the second meeting. It was just me and the moderator (who is a widow). We watch a video and then are supposed to talk about stuff. It is supposed to go for 13 weeks. I am not sure if I will continue either. I have found more support by reading posts on this website as it covers so much that is on my mind. However, it would be nice to talk to someone face to face just to see if it would be helpful.
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Comment by Suz on August 16, 2012 at 7:10pm -
I think support groups differ a lot. I have been in several for other reasons and I have quit several and feel some have saved my life. I would give it a little more try, perhaps, but you do know best!
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Comment by Susan J on August 16, 2012 at 4:46pm -
Will do. I'm certainly not afraid of crying anymore. When I start to feel the urge to let go, I watch a Hallmark movie I have on DVR and get plenty of release. Have you ever noticed, many Hallmark movies start with someone widow(er)ed?
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Comment by NC Coco on August 16, 2012 at 4:24pm -
Susan J - Please let me know what you think of the movie. Thanks
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Comment by Susan J on August 16, 2012 at 3:33pm
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I'm going to see the movie bacause I hope it will reinforce the hope I have for the future.
My two months on this site have been my only support thus far; however, I am starting a chapter of Widows Wear Stilletos in the San Francisco area. It's not so much about grieving as it is about making it through and moving forward to being happy again.
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Comment by Joyce on August 16, 2012 at 12:10pm -
I don't have a support group outside of here either. I was only interested in support groups for widow/widowers and the only one is at 5:30 about 25-30 minutes away and since I get off work at 5:00 never seemed like I would make it in time. I don't think I would want to see that movie, I think it would make me sadder.
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Comment by Blue Snow on August 16, 2012 at 11:26am -
Thanks for the tip about the movie. I was suppose to see it with a bunch from the senior hall. Not sure I will now, maybe just catch them at lunch afterwards.
I've been invited to a local grief support group but didn't go. I agree it's social activity based on a common life experience and I can get all the social activity I need at the senior hall when I'm ready.
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Comment by kimkirt (KK) on August 16, 2012 at 8:57am
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I don't have a support group outside of here. The one general bereavement group here meets 4:00 on Thursdays and I work so can't make that. I have found that actively participating here has done wonders for me. Getting to know people closer and making friends here, meeting them, etc. I also go to one on one counseling. But honestly, I like here better. I have not seen the movie but would like to, except don't know who I would go with. Don't think my son wants to see it (he's 11). So I'll probably just wait until it comes out on DVD and rent it or something. HUGS to you.
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