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Husband died July 11, 2019 At this point in time, I still cry a lot and feel scared of what’s ahead. Others think we should have moved on at this point. Little do they know, that there is no moving on but moving through. It is a long process and I have accepted this. No easy way, no easy answers. Just taking baby steps so to speak. Read all I can to heal. Have several wonderful books to carry me through and my church. Just checking in to say hi and you are all in my thoughts. I know what it is all about. Grieving is a hard journey to travel. But it takes a village with out a doubt. Safe safe and well. Julie

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Comment by Pegasus on May 11, 2019 at 3:01pm

My husband died July 10, 2018.  After a week of tests in the hospital; I was told to take him home because he had 10 days to live.  Inoperable hole in his colon and colon cancer.  He held on for 42 days, dying on our daughter's 27th birthday.  52 years together and it was gone in an instant. I didn't allow myself to grieve and just did what I had to do to settle his estate.  Suddenly one day about 3 months ago I started having sudden crying outbursts, scared, depressed, no motivation, no energy and began to isolate myself from family and friends. Can't sleep more than 3 hours at a time.  You're absolutely right that healing is a very long process and we can only move through it.  No short cuts, taking baby steps.  Reading as a way to help understand what's happened.  Bless you and may time restore both of us.

Comment by Cindy on April 24, 2019 at 7:57am

Lost my love on July 23, 2018. Yesterday was 9 months and all I could do was think of how much I miss him. I wonder if I will ever stop hurting. I cry most days and just can’t find joy in anything. I’ve gone to  grief share, a bereavement group and read about grief and healing. I to smile when I think of our time together, but knowing that part of my life will never be the same feels like I’m being crushed. I know people survive this but I’m not sure how to move forward. Thank you for sharing. I don’t feel so alone.

Comment by Julie on April 19, 2019 at 6:21pm

Not sure if I’m doing this right. I tried to send something yesterday but I not sure if it went through. Maybe someone can help me. Julie

Comment by sis on April 17, 2019 at 6:08am

Did you mean July 2018? I lost my husband March 2018 and still cry a lot, although I do smile more when I think of him than I used to. I have learned to dismiss those that think they have all the answers for me. I realize that grief is different for everyone, like fingerprints, and so we each have to handle it at our own pace. God Bless you in this roller -coaster journey.

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