A community of peers created by the Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation
Three big mistakes were made that took my Billie from me, 15 months ago today. I went back to the hospital where two of the doctors are, and met with the patient advocate, spent more than an hour and explained what had happened, showed her photos and everything. She said they would face a peer review, but that I will not be able to know the results of that review. Now what do I do with this feeling? These were not just innocent mistakes, these were the result of rushing on the part of the docs and not paying attention to his history or his Xrays...do you guys have any suggestions, wisdom, for how to cope when someone did this to my soulmate, my finally found true love? I cannot see especially the first doctor, ever again, because, honestly, I don't think I could restrain myself in his presence. Billie was doing so well, just went in for a hernia surgery, and the doc rushed through everything, and did something so stupid even non-medical people have been able to tell me how wrong it was. How do we let go of the anger? How do I shake the feeling he was murdered? And that his assassins have gotten off scot-free - maybe to harm others in the future?