I mean -- am I still an in-law to them? In the two years since my husband died I have been fiercely embraced at times and avoided at other times. I was married to their brother for 41 years. The relationship I have with them has, of course, changed greatly. I am different and so are they. The strange thing is that all of my nieces and nephews (all grown now) treat me exactly the same as before. Not so with their parents. My side of the family treats me just as they always have.
So I am not sure what to do, if anything. I have gotten to the point where I overlook their insensitive and hurtful remarks because I am want to be the bigger person. I want peace in my life. And I want to honor the wonderful, crazy and precious life of my husband who I miss so very much.
Would love to hear some thoughts from those of you further down the road. Thanks for your help.