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My Roses

We need to know we are incredibly valuable to a harsh world.  We have gone through a horror journey and are changed forever.  We may not feel we have been very successful Grievers but Oh yes, we are special.  We are withstanding powerful forces that want to shame us, bring us into their view of what is right.  I  am filled with amazement at what the people in this Village are overcoming - however slowly.  We are being tested to the limit of our endurance and the limit of our  resources.  But we are still able to Love.  

 I see a vision of us with our clothes blowing in the mighty wind, nearly taking us off our feet.  But we are still here, however battered.  We need to know how valuable we are - and reverse this 'grimey" picture that is being painted of us. If we were putting this much time and effort into ANY other cause we would be seen as strong and worthy. The challenge is that we must see ourselves in a new  way. A powerful light actually shines out from us. I have begun to see this recently. We are  of benefit  to others - it is that many only see the widows face which we wear. The truth is that we have a new heart and theirs may still be stoney !  We have gained compassion, wisdom and a mighty capacity to love.   Our experience can make a difference in a stoney world.   We will move from being  seen as a problem to one of respect for the values we have gained AND WORKED FOR.  Yes we have worked hard - see we were not just sitting at home moping for our loved one... we have become  givers. Yes - a slight rearrangement of the word Grievers. We are now people blessed with gifts that our community needs and like it or not we still are in love with a beautiful partner.


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Comment by Cristina on December 27, 2013 at 7:28am

Hear, hear.  Gave me chills.  Thank you. 

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