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Wish I knew what they wanted from me.
When are other people going to just except what we go through? I would think that if friends and family loved us they would at least try to understand why we do what we do.
When I was locking myself in my house for 6 days a week, crying all alone I wouldn't even get a phone call. Now that I'm trying to get out and enjoy life again everyone has something to say. I've been told I'm having a nervous breakdown, a midlife crisis, I'm stupid because I'm the only one that doesn't think the guy I'm seeing is after just my money, like there is something so wrong with me that he wouldn't want me for myself. Why do friends and family have to be like that. Why can't they be happy that I'm getting out and enjoying life again. I still have bad days, and Gary is the one person that helps get me through them. Not many men will hold you while you cry about losing the love of your life. He doesn't mind all the pics. of KC up all over the house, and he doesn't say a word when I touch KC's urn and tell him I love him. I just will never understand what they all want from me.
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Comment by jean on November 15, 2012 at 5:31pm -
They love you Lisa and are worried, just as you would be if this was your mom, friend or sister. ((hugs)) I am so happy you found someone sweetie.. but BE CAREFUL! sometimes our family see things we don't..
*ducking* :o) Missed me! LOL
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Comment by Lisa (lost) Lamb on October 11, 2012 at 1:20am
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Thank you so much Susan and Dianne, I can always depend on everyone here to understand. I am finding now that Gary has moved to Wi. it's a little harder for me. Before I could keep my past and present in two different worlds but now I find myself comparing Gary to KC more and more. I know that's not fare and I know there isn't a man on earth that will ever measure up to my husband. I hope I don't push away someone that truly cares about me in the meantime. It still doesn't get any easier!
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Comment by Dianne in Nevada on October 7, 2012 at 10:10pm -
I'm happy Susan responded to this today so I saw it - not sure how I missed it when you first posted it. I agree with everything that has been said, Lisa. I'm so pleased that you and Gary have found one another. You deserve to be happy. And you are blessed to have found someone who understands that KC will always be a part of you. I worried so about you during those early months when you were struggling - and how your friends and family can't be happy for you now is just beyond me. Don't give them a thought. You are LIVING and you are enjoying life ... and that's all good.
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Comment by Susan B on October 7, 2012 at 9:51pm -
Lisa, you are one smart cookie, and someone who impressed my as being a no bs type gal. You can have the relationship that you want; you will watch out for yourself--of this I have NO doubt. How anyone could spend any time with you and doubt that--they aren't paying attention!
You'll always have WV friends who will listen and who will give you feedback if you ask. In the meantime, you are doing your best to honor KC, , and it's great that Gary is helping you and giving you the love and respect you deserve.
My very best wishes,
SusanB
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Thank you everyone for all your support. I hate when others make me doubt myself!
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Comment by bad ass widow on September 19, 2012 at 7:09pm -
Ah Lisa, Screw em!
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Comment by cec on September 19, 2012 at 5:20pm -
Oh lIsa , I see nothing wrong with what you are doing and you are very lucky to find an amazing man to stand by your side...Enjoy life sweetie . we love our family but in reality screw them they have no idea what we deal with...Do what makes you happy and leaves a smile on your face...
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Comment by kimkirt (KK) on September 19, 2012 at 9:14am -
If they are all so fired up and concerned, tell them to come over at 2 in the morning while you are crying your eyes out and hold you like Gary does. Jeez! I do NOT understand people. We are damned if we do and damned if we don't. It's YOUR life Lisa, LIVE it. Hugs!!!
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Comment by janet on September 19, 2012 at 8:31am -
Lisa, I think that it is great that you have found someone who accepts you for who you are. Family and friends thoughts, words, and actions are irrelevant because they are not going through this. Do what makes you happy and enjoy life. Best of luck to you sweet lady.
Hugs.
Janet
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Comment by Joyce on September 19, 2012 at 8:16am -
Lisa, it's your life and we all know how short life is, Live it the way you want!
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