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Writers Block
When I returned from Camp WIdow West, I received 2 phone calls. One asking me to come back to my old job, and the other from the editor of the local paper. I jumped at the chance to go back to my old job. Leaving there was one of my biggest regrets in this journey of widowhood. The second call threw me for a loop. They want me to write a series of columns based on the view of a widow. I was very motivated to do this after camp. I had attended Abigail Carters workshop at camp and I was pumped.
Now I am scared to the nth degree. My blogs on here can relate to you guys, because you are widow/ers. To put it simply, you guys get it. How can I write something that the "normal" people would understand? I am pretty sure that they wont get that I have Keiths and my Dads ashes in the backseat of my truck. I am pretty sure they wont understand the shear insanity of widow brain. I am pretty sure they wont understand my somewhat scewed sense of humor.
I am not good at writing deep and meaningful thoughts, those things coming from me would sound ridiculous and insincere. Beside FredX is the master at those kinds of words and thoughts. And he is very, very good at it. I know it is supposed to be from my point of view, as whacked as that is, but I am scared. I have not been scared like this in a really long time.
Its a good thing that they have set no deadline for me because right now I have writers block.
Oh Hell.
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Comment by Eileen on September 10, 2012 at 11:09pm -
I think you just wrote the first one (above!) a good intro I think.
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Comment by Marsha on September 10, 2012 at 11:00pm -
Amy write the columns. You don't know who the reader is that will need to hear what you have to say and will realize they are not alone. You are a wonderful writer and have helped me on my journey. Love your humor. I say go for it. You have a village behind you cheering you on! Love you!
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Comment by AEDforever (Ali) on September 10, 2012 at 8:49pm -
Amy...I agree with lovie...Your writing is real, true...witty and funny. Your perspective hits a cord with all of us..and will with not only widows..but people in general. I love your down to earth..tell it like it happened style. I am pretty sure that people WILL get your screwed sense of humor...and if a few of them don't..so what? All good writers write for themselves..just keep doing that and your audience will find you. You'll see.
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Comment by lovie on September 10, 2012 at 2:21pm -
Amy, YOU will become the Erma Bombeck of the Widowed World. Her humorous columns on the suburban housewife and everyday life in general was enjoyed by millions of women (and some men, too, I am sure). Your blogs so remind me of her columns!! Humor and laughter and snarky remarks are better than any medicine available to lift us up and keep us moving into our unknown future. Do not forget us when you become famous!!!! And please share your columns here if permissible or let us know how we can follow them. Erma published many of her columns into books...hmmmm, the BadAssWriter becomes an author...Good Luck!!
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Comment by Krista Westervelt (whoknows) on September 10, 2012 at 12:52pm -
Don't censor your process, just let it flow. Write anything that comes to mind. Don't worry about zeroing in just yet. Just get it all out. Then pick through and find the good fruit.
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Comment by bad ass widow on September 10, 2012 at 12:02pm -
Thanks everyone. I guess its because I have so many ideas and thoughts running through my head that trying to contain them and zero in one thought at a time is daunting. But I will do it. Thanks for your confidence in me.
Dianne, the editor has been a friend of mine since we were 5 years old. I sent my brother copies of my blogs on here and my Dad"isms". The sneak that he is sent them to Cindy. Something that I would never have done. So while I am aggravated with him for being a pain in the butt, I am happy too LOL
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Comment by kimkirt (KK) on September 10, 2012 at 8:35am -
Amy, some days it flows, some days it doesn't. Don't worry, the flow days will come and you will do beautifully. It is from YOUR perspective, don't worry about writing for others, write for you. You'll do find my bad ass friend, I know you will! xoxox
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Comment by chez2all on September 10, 2012 at 5:12am -
Amy, the editor wouldn't have asked you to write from a widows perspective if he wanted a neighbours view of a widow...lettings others know of your personal journey and how you have been able to cope with everything thrown at you is a really important message to get 'out there'. Take the opportunity...your sense of humour has been an important part of your journey so run with it...see what happens. The worst they can say is, well this isn't going to work...but think of the best that could happen. Others in the community can learn to understand that being a widow isn't contageous, doesn't mean our lives have ended, doesn't mean we don't want to live again - just that we need a bit more support from the community for a while, warts and all!
BTW my daughter loves it that you have your husbands and fathers ashes in the truck - go for it, we'll be supporting you and I'm sure there'll be lots of ideas coming from here to help.
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Comment by mamatrees on September 10, 2012 at 12:19am -
So what?!
There are a lot of columns i "don't get",
but there are also columns i "get"...so....
Some people will understand,so won't.
The written words can really touch some one,
or they don't.
I understand you are scared,
but the "rawness" in your blogs,makes me personally want to read them over and over again.
Have faith.
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Comment by Lisa ( Marielee) on September 10, 2012 at 12:13am
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Amy - you have been an inspiration for me and I am sure for many other's here. YOU are amazing and I know you have lots to share to help other's understand ( even a little bit) of what we go through. You can spread information to other's on how to help, support and what not to say!!! to widow's. You have a strong and inspirational voice. I can understand how scarey this must be for you am confident that there is so much more inside of you to share. Congratulations friend and smart person that editor to get you to be the one to write this column. Have fun and I am sure you can get lot's of ideas ( good & bad) from all of us here!
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