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At 5:51pm on January 12, 2018, Thankfulheart said…

     Hi peg, I’m sorry  for your loss. It’s a journey one day st a time. It’s been 7 years and I can tell you it will get better after lots of crying, and praying is what I did.  Hold on to whatever faith you have. Life is not fair  unfortunately One has no choice things happen. We do have a choice to keep loving and not moving on as people always say. A choice to move forward and never stop loving your loved one. But to learn in time to love even deeper hang in there . 

At 2:04pm on January 8, 2018, Carmen513 said…

Hi Pegg,

I read your post and I could have written it word for word. I lost my baby July 2nd,2017 and I will miss him til the day I die. The calendar tells me its been 6 mths now, my heart tells me something quite different. Grief sucks, and I pray and hope that you are managing to see some light at the end of the tunnel some  days. Peace and smiles for miles~Carmen (New Zealand)..p.s I sent you a friend request)

At 5:51pm on January 7, 2018, Brucer said…

Hi again Pegg,

I saw your post from yesterday.  I had no one to talk to either, face to face anyway.  People don't really know what to say to us because they don't share what our hearts know.  Even now I'll come home from work and announce to no one, "I'm home!"  Seems silly but it's how I get by.  I can not get used to being alone.  I fly to Ohio monthly to see my daughter and her family of 3 grandboys (ages 5, 3, and 2).  That provides temporary joy and diversion but it will never fill the void I feel.

I stayed away from counseling one on one.  I didn't want to share with a stranger who may or may not have had my experience.  I know for a fact none of us have the same experience anyway.  I did, however, find a program called Griefshare.  It is a nationwide program usually administered through local churches and it has structured presentations for 13 or 14 weeks.  Each week is a different topic so you can go or not go as you like.  I even repeated sessions.  My goal was to have a "take away" each time I went. What is nice is that you can participate in any discussion or just observe.

I also joined a local meetup group called Albuquerque Widow and Widowers.  They occasionally would meet for events like brunch or dinner.  Not my cup of tea.  Many people were nice and respectful but others  wanted to "fix" me.  I stopped that early.

I hope your days improve and I wish you all my best.


At 4:12am on January 5, 2018, Brucer said…

Hi Pegg,

I'm very sorry for your loss and for the reason you are on this website.  I have been on and off this site the past 5 years and find comfort when I do really need it.  I hope that you do as well.  All my best,


At 9:14pm on January 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Pegg. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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