Hi Coco. Thank you for friending me. I am so grateful to the outreach of this community. It is isolating living as widow in our everyday life. Here I feel safe to say what is really on my mind. Thank you. I see you lost your husband suddenly. I cannot imagine. I cared for my ill husband for 13 years, the last 8 were the hardest due to his condition. We said good-bye to each other many times--not that it helped when he finally left me, but at least I knew how he felt and what he wanted for me. Now I just have to find a way for me to get there!
Normal? Wednesday Aug 8 will be 2 months for me and I am sorting out what is the new normal for me. I am doing pretty good I think, but dragging on finalizing claims on life insurance, COBRA, and some other things. Steve's passing came just a little over a year since my mom passed. I have had basically two years of paperwork, cleaning and sorting mom's house-what a horrific task that is, and basically trying to not make any real decisions. I am fortunate that my mom had a current living trust set up and I am an only child, and Steve and I had a living trust as well.
I do find myself sometimes kind of snapping out of a fog that I didn't even realize I was in. I had a tough time staying clear on the drive down and back to my mom's house. Over an hour each way even on a Sunday in daylight.
I know it all takes time and I am hoping the fresh sea air and fascinating ports on my upcoming 30 day cruise from Barcelona to the Black Sea, Hold Lands, and back to Rome will be a real healing balm.
We will all get there, I for one one to get to the new normal as quickly as possible.
Coco, I'd wonder if the travel agent is pushing hard enough! I'd be tempted to call UA and make an inquiry! They should get the refund processed in a reasonable amount of time. We ttied to get UA to credit the unused tickets, had the doctor write a letter he was in the hospital, nada, UA wouldn't budge and we both are 1K fliers.
Hi Nina, Thanks for your number. If you want, we could meet one day next week for lunch at Wellbread in Weaverville, or any place you want. I work very close to Weaverville. When do you begin the support group? Let me know when and if you can meet next week. Hopefully, we can get together with KK one weekend soon.
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Welcome Nini: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
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I'm so very sorry for your loss, Nini, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here. Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info
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