I am still learning this website and didn't know if you would see what I posted to you on my blog so, just in case here it is again.
Hoosier, I don't know your circumstances but I feel compelled to say to you, most of us feel guilty after a loved one dies (real or imagined), be it our spouse or another loved one. It is normal, and it is something you have to learn to let go. For a while, I've had to let it go daily or hourly. It's been almost three months for me, and one of the best gifts I've been given is the release of guilt. I am still finding it creeping into my thoughts but I refuse to allow them to linger in my mind.
I hate to write like I'm some sort of an authority on grief, as I'm new to it and learning just like everyone else. So, this is my opinion on guilt and I hope it helps you. Guilt is just another obstacle to overcome in the journey towards the new life you'd like to build. Overcoming an obstacle of the mind requires realigning our thinking to be on par with Gods word. God, does NOT use guilt to make us sad and overwhelmed or add to grief. I truly believe guilt after a death is normal, however not what God want's us to be thinking about. I'm certainly not an authority on God's word either but it has helped me through the most awful of times to pray for the peace of heart and mind that is unique to me. I have had to pray hourly if not more often than that in the beginning but now I can honestly say, I still have thoughts of guilt but they are fleeting as I stop and pray for re-direction. The shoulda, coulda, woulda's will make you crazy if you let it. Choose not to let it girl!
Welcome to Widville under the circumstances that brought us to need a place like this. I too am a Hoosier and wanted to let you know about a couple of local groups of us who are planning some outings. You are more than welcome to attend any and all the events.
Let me know if you are interested now or at some point in the future.
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