"This discussion touches me in so many ways. It will be 11 months for me this coming week, and I’ve not been able to remove his clothes from our closet. I just can’t imagine them not being there, across from mine. His dresser still holds…"
"It’s a beautiful and profound sculpture and surely resonates with all of us trying to reinvent ourselves from all the pieces left. This writing I share brings me great comfort and may fit nicely here:
”I greet you from the other side of…"
"I bought 2 eternity circle pendants for myself and my daughter that hold a tiny amount of my husand’s ashes. I wear mine special places, not all the time. But especially when I feel a greater need to have him with me...his patience, tolerance…"
"Melissa, I’m glad you liked the quote as as I do; it inspires me every day. I know what you mean about dying; with our loves gone, it just seems OK to be finished too. On bad days, thinking of the future makes me anxious, but meditation has…"
"Colleen and Carol, my heart goes out to you especially, thinking of the pain, grief and confusion you must have endured being in a foreign country. Carol, it is so new and raw to you now; do take special care of yourself each day.
"I’ve experienced every single one of those changes in the past 6 months. The challenge is facing each one of those changes to try and rebuild a life. For me, I know it will take the rest of my life. But my beloved husband will hold my hand…"
"Rkay, your comments are especially meaningful to me! I too don’t speak of my grief a lot, but my friends who know me well ‘get’ how I feel; they knew my husband too and share much of my pain. It’s only been 6 months for…"
"Thiswitch, thank you for your reply, it’s nice to know someone else feels the contradiction of not wanting people to feel sorry, but also wanting them to understand. Weekends are difficult; it’s Sunday and I was doing a little shopping…"
"It is 6 months today since I lost the love of my life after 29 years. Yet it seems like a lifetime since I’ve been without his love and presence. Time has a way of distorting reality when it comes to this particular grief I think. As he would…"
"GracieB, I am so sorry for your loss and happy that you’ve reached out here. It saddens me deeply that you have so little support in your grief other than your sister and father. But what gifts they are to you now! It has to be doubly…"
"I am so very sorry InsideLove. For me it hasn’t quite been 5 months, and as another widow said recently here: “when I lost him, I lost me.” I truly don’t know who I am now. My self confidence has slipped away, and I…"
"Thank you Summergirl. After losing 9 pounds (off a very small frame to start with), I’ve been cooking and eating well for the past months. Only 7 more pounds to go; I do sleep well, which is a miracle as well as a gift. At the same time my…"
"I am so very sorry for your loss. It will be 3 years since my husband passed and the journey has been with plenty of ups and downs. I have made progress but on the difficult days it feels like I am going backward. I recall the…"
"Melissa, I understand about something seemingly as small as toothpaste. I still have the tube we took to the hospital, his favorite brand, not mine. I have come to call these things, like the last jar of mustard in the fridge we shared,…"
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