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Why no messages??

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) May 16, 2018. 4 Replies

Its just past 10 months since Helen has gone.  Whenever we went out for the day/evening when we got back home there was always (well usually!!) a message left on the phone.  Now I know that a lot…Continue

Do others have problems with photo's

Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 Aug 7, 2017. 3 Replies

My Helen passed away 30th June, going through all the trauma's that all know about on  this site but why is it that some photo's can give comfort and some healing whilst others just seem to send me…Continue

 

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HelensRay replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Alan Jackson - its just that way http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j3CdvI_1e_E"
Wednesday
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi Phil, I lost my Helen 20 months ago just a few months short of our 48th wedding anniversary. So so sorry for your loss, they say time is a great healer unfortunately I have not reached that "time" as yet. Boy have I been through some…"
Feb 10
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Being alone is part of our thing, whether on our own or with other people (if that makes sense) its how we each handle it.  I have had so much support from being part of this village, hope you can get something from it as well. Ray"
Dec 16, 2018
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Monkey, I am 18 months into this, lost my Helen June 2017.  Last month would have been our 49th anniversary.  I have been so fortunate with the friends I have in that nobody has gone out of their way to "help" they have just been…"
Dec 16, 2018
HelensRay replied to catapan's discussion I’m so hurt
"Catapan, I posted a discussion some time back asking somewhat you are asking: i.e.: Its just past 10 months since Helen has gone.  Whenever we went out for the day/evening when we got back home there was always (well usually!!) a message…"
Oct 4, 2018
HelensRay replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"I lost my Helen June 2017 and had intended scattering Helen ashes on her birthday January 2018. That did'nt happen.  I decided last week that the time was now right and I would scatter them on Sunday.  Made some excuse why I…"
Oct 3, 2018
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Oh! Christine I just feel so sorry for your situation, to lose your husband so unexpectedly but then to have to wait 6 months to say your last goodbye is just so so awful.  The 2 weeks before I could lay my Helen to rest was so bad but to wait…"
Sep 3, 2018
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Sandya, I lost my Helen on June 30th 2017, and after 48 years of marriage, and even now when I wake up each morning I have that initial "surprise!!" that I am on my own. I miss her so much and still feel "lost" and whilst things…"
Aug 7, 2018
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Amy, so sorry for your loss and in such a obvious traumatic experience. Any loss is horrendous but Helen and I knew what was about to happen, losing your husband in that manner must have so so bad, and so so bad for your young children.  I am…"
Jul 17, 2018
HelensRay replied to Luv4Z's discussion 6weeks out and overwhelming sadness in the group Widowed in 2017
"Oh Luz, your position just makes me so sad and I do have tears.  I was so fortunate to have my Helen for 50 years but to lose your love so soon and with so many small children.  I thought my heartache was bad but I just can't imagine…"
Jul 16, 2018
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Chronicler, so sorry that you are here with us. I too have just passed the first year milestone, I don't call it an anniversary, thats something you celebrate.  I have been fortunate to have family and friends that have not tried to…"
Jul 9, 2018
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"cushty, I so feel for you all our feelings are different but the hurt is just so bad. I lost my Helen 30th June 2017, the past 2 weeks up to that milestone (not anniversary - thats not the word) has been so bad, just remembering those last 2 weeks…"
Jul 2, 2018
Rainy (Misty) replied to HelensRay's discussion Why no messages??
"HI, I think it's for several reasons.  People, in general, don't understand, when the funeral is over it's over (for them), they don't want to intrude because they have no idea what to say, because they are afraid of you,…"
May 16, 2018
BobbiG replied to HelensRay's discussion Why no messages??
"well, you sound like a nice caring man! Being sad and feeling alone is a constant for all of us going through our losses. Sometimes if I’m around people I feel fine. I chat and smile because the connection to anyone, even for a short while…"
May 15, 2018
HelensRay replied to HelensRay's discussion Why no messages??
"Hi Bobbig, I am going through a phase of feeling a bit sorry for myself. Last night I was feeling a little bit lower than usual and perhaps a little bit hurt as well. And I should say not hurt for me but hurt for Helen.  I have a good group of…"
May 8, 2018
BobbiG replied to HelensRay's discussion Why no messages??
"Hi! What i’m learning as a recent widow, it is important to reach out to people you like or have been a friend to you before. Post on facebook if you do that. People in ited me out quite a bit in the first couple of months but now i contact or…"
May 8, 2018

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At 11:52pm on July 27, 2017, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, HelensRay. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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