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Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Mar 26, 2017. 8 Replies 2 Likes
When I hit two years I decided that I was going to stop wasting my life in sorrow and heartbreak. I decided that I would focus on feeling grateful for the wonderful life I was able to share with an…Continue
Started this discussion. Last reply by Nance63 Feb 6, 2017. 12 Replies 1 Like
I lost my husband almost 2 years ago, and there is a woman who worked with him who cared for him very much and she has made a point of checking in with me regularly and making sure I am okay, and…Continue
Started this discussion. Last reply by Lupe's husband Mar 14, 2017. 48 Replies 1 Like
I loved my husband so much, and he was an incredible person. I knew how lucky I was to have him in my life. It is so easy now that I have lost him to think that no one could love me as much as he…Continue
Started this discussion. Last reply by Dianne in Nevada May 28, 2015. 22 Replies 1 Like
I have had several (not widowed) people tell me that I should take my kids on a nice vacation this year, and I thought at first that we should as well, but the problem is that we took so many really…Continue
Posted on January 7, 2016 at 8:56am 0 Comments 5 Likes
Today I came across a quote by Marcus Aurelius, “Tomorrow is nothing, today is too late; the good lived yesterday.” What can he have meant by it? I can only assume that he lost someone too, as that is how I felt nearly every day for an entire year. The pain I felt on my husband's death was so intense that I thought the physical stress of it would carry me off as well. Everything around me looked flat, as if the world itself was changed without his observation of it. I didn’t sleep, and…
ContinueMary H, you didn't need to apologize at all. Trying does not always work and you are so right. Hugs
Hi Mary H,
I am so sorry for your loss and I wish you all my best. My wife died 2 yrs and 8 months ago and this journey of grief goes on and on. I saw your comments about family visits and how inconsiderate they can be. For me, I experienced their lack of understanding of my wife's cancer as she battled for 8 years. Her family continued to rely on her for everything as if she was perfectly healthy. They expected her to put on holiday dinners, birthday parties, give haircuts,...you name it! I could barely stand it and tried to politely suggest that others step up. It was maddening at times. We moved to Albuquerque from Cleveland for a job opportunity for me while she was in remission. Eventually, her cancer returned and she passed in our home and we were together...just us two the way it should have been.
People can be so selfish sometimes and others, like my wife, are so unselfish always giving of themselves. Even now, If I dwell on the demands that her family put on her, I begin to boil so I try to block it out. Life is too short for pointless anger.
I hope each day is a little better for you. Stay well.
Bruce
awe mary...thx I so feel your pain so fresh so puzzling and the urgency with which the grief attacks is so exhausting...especially when resolve does not flow. Be strong. I will not say it gets easier or softer...only you will know if it does...but there will be more changes and when they come they often give a glimpse of something that resembles understanding. love lj
Mary- Thanks for the friend request. I hope you can get some of the paperwork and financial things sorted out. That is the worse, and the most pressing in the beginning. I know you have already found this site to be helpful, and trust you will come here for sharing, and venting as needed. It's a horrible journey we are all on, but it's good to know we are not alone.
Just stopping by to let you know that I lift in prayer and send you lovelovelove. My husband has been gone for 15 months now. I miss him more every day. Sending you strength for the funeral.
Deborah
Welcome to Widville, Mary H. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.
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