My husband died 8 mos ago. I have found myself still in a state of shock and bewilderment. My brain feels fractured. I am ordinarily pretty intelligent, but I find myself really changed. I am hoping…Continue
"edgless, I am so sorry; your pain is so palpable... I'm so glad you are seeking out avenues of comfort and support like this site and the excellent therapist. It will take time, much time, and may cycle round a bit, but you will be…"
I've been catching some of these recent posts by email. You all are talking about the very thing I have been talking about with my daughter, my friend and my therapist, lately.... because I am in that season right now.
"going.on.slowly I think we joined about the same time. I also was widowed suddenly in june, 2016. I am doing better, I know, when I look back. But things come in waves. I do sometimes still feel i'm on that…"
"I get it. One of my worst times 'after' was picking up my husband's jeans, taking the worn out belt off, pulling the receipts out of the pockets, from the grocery stop he had done just that night.... the minutiae of life, a life that…"
"Thanks, Dianne in Nevada (first to welcome me 2 years ago, thanks!) Yes, I do follow. My box says "stop following, which I do not click on! Just don't get them all. Not sure why. Maybe it's just our carrier?…"
"Not sure why it is I get SOME of these posts notifications and not others. I saw HockeyDogs post about disorientation and wanted to agree. I think the death of a spouse is so jarring, it's something that completely knocks you off…"
"An acquaintance of mine just posted that his wife has died, and I can feel his pain and want to give him some of the supports I found like this site. I was thinking about him last night and one bit of advice I would give to him and when I glanced at…"
"I just finished this book. I am not feverishly searching for books on grief any longer, almost two years after my husband died, but I found this on the library shelf and it really touched me and validated some things. The authors use anecdotes,…"
"I tried to write more but my computer started acting up and I had to just post what I had, which was not even what I wanted to say, just an introduction! trying again...
The early days of practical matters to attend give way to so many…"
"Raebee, I feel for you, and can remember how those early weeks (for I was still counting by the weeks at the stage you are) felt. My husband was also 58 when he suffered cardiac arrest at home, was revived only enough to be kept for a…"
But I do have a strong faith that gives me great support, so that I don't have some of the questions I see that others have. I agree very much with trying to find ways to count blessings and feel gratitude. It can…"
"Hello, all... I've been reading the posts as they come into my email and I think of my responses to each but don't get to come on the site and respond as I want to do, so please bear with me as I just post some of the things that I recall…"
"NoLongerinBergenJC, your posts always resonate with me. I don't have time to post what I'd like right now and I hope to come back to it, but wanted to just say that while our situations are different in many respects, there are…"
I wonder if anything more has come of this situation that's now almost two weeks old? I just think that this colleague/new friend sounds like a very kind, sincere person and you should try not to overthink it. Be natural,…"