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Dee1960
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What to say, when well meaning friends tell you to "get over it"?

Started this discussion. Last reply by laurajay yesterday. 7 Replies

The five year anniversary of my husband's death is approaching (May 28) and I am sad, and I am lonely and I missing him more than ever, and stressed with all this pandemic junk going on...  Last…Continue

Mediums

Started this discussion. Last reply by Dee1960 Feb 29. 18 Replies

Just wondering if anyone has gone to a medium to connect with their spouse? And if so, what was the outcome?  *good, bad, or -- ?"  I've been to a few and just want to know what others have done...…Continue

Wedding Rings -- why wear them?

Started this discussion. Last reply by 05032019 on Saturday. 30 Replies

Today I went out to lunch with a friend (not a widow) and told her all my widowed friends (that I met at Grief Groups) have taken their wedding rings off. I'm still wearing mine. Actually have mine…Continue

Chat room?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Soaring Spirits Jan 12. 1 Reply

What happened to the "temporary chat room"??? Tried to go go there and got a message saying "This group does not exist" ... what's going on? Anyone know?Continue

 

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Dee1960 replied to Dee1960's discussion What to say, when well meaning friends tell you to "get over it"?
"Thank you barbee  and sorry to hear of your many losses.... I feel your pain too, my husband died, two weeks later our beloved cat died, and the next month my dog died (I know these are our pets, but are family to me) and then six months later…"
yesterday
Dee1960 replied to Dee1960's discussion What to say, when well meaning friends tell you to "get over it"?
"Thank you laurajay, you are so right on so many points,  esp: we do not move forward in our grief to please our dead spouse --- I have to keep reminding myself. My friend is not a widow, she is divorced, her husband an asshole I know divorce…"
yesterday
Dee1960 replied to Dee1960's discussion What to say, when well meaning friends tell you to "get over it"?
"Thank you"
yesterday
barbee replied to Dee1960's discussion What to say, when well meaning friends tell you to "get over it"?
"Dee, I can feel your pain. Saturday, May 23 would have been my 56th wedding anniversary had he lived. He died seven years ago. No one besides me remembered. It also was the one-month anniversary of my brother-in-law's death from COVID19.…"
yesterday
Alma replied to Dee1960's discussion What to say, when well meaning friends tell you to "get over it"?
"I think accepting some people just can't sit with other's grief is all you can do. This is not a friend who can be there during your grief. So, come here and share your feelings. We get it."
Monday
Dee1960 posted a discussion

What to say, when well meaning friends tell you to "get over it"?

The five year anniversary of my husband's death is approaching (May 28) and I am sad, and I am lonely and I missing him more than ever, and stressed with all this pandemic junk going on...  Last night, talked to a dear old friend (known her 30 years or so) but we now live in different states. We chit chatted about her kids, grandkids, and she asked about me, and I told her how stressed, depressed about this coming 5 year death anniversary. And she said, "Get over it" she also said, "I can…See More
Monday
05032019 replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"My husband died May 3, 2019 and I wear his wedding band on top of my wedding band.  It fits perfectly over my wedding ring and is comforting to me.  There is no right or wrong just a personal preference.  "
Saturday
Helen replied to Dee1960's discussion Death Anniversary
"Hi Dee, My husband took his life April 18, 2019, and I just had my husband's 1 year anniversary this last Saturday.  Your situation is different than mine so it is just a suggestion.  Not sure if you have a favorite place to go with…"
Apr 21
kln82 replied to Dee1960's discussion Death Anniversary
"It has been 6 years (this week) for me. I have done different things different years. One year, I took a long drive to some of my husbands favorite mountains. One year I stayed home and looked at pictures and cried and laughed too. One year I got a…"
Apr 14
LandL (Linda) replied to Dee1960's discussion Death Anniversary
"Melissa, my heart is with you today.  You were so very kind to me a few weeks ago when I posted on the "born in the 50's" group about how much I'm missing my husband right now, even after 5 years.  I've read your…"
Apr 2
Tess replied to Dee1960's discussion Death Anniversary
"Melissa, I’m thinking of you today. I still remember being so beside myself on the first deathiversary. I couldn’t get Netflix to work and my daughter couldn’t understand my infuriation with it. It was never the Netflix at all, but…"
Apr 2
Melissa replied to Dee1960's discussion Death Anniversary
"Today is my first deathiversary. I'm hoping to be distracted by work for most of the day, but am also holding space for my day to go any way I need in the moment. At least since I'm working from home due to coronavirus, I know that if I…"
Apr 2
Dee1960 replied to Dee1960's discussion Mediums
"Lost Girl, thank you, that was beautiful! Who was the medium?"
Feb 29
Dee1960 replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"GreenSofie, that is so beautiful and the way I feel too. My husband and I had matching bands, though his was a bigger and broader than mine. He never EVER took it off, even though many medical procedures, refused to take it off and they would put…"
Feb 29
Dee1960 replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Vintage Barb, I love your attitude!  BTW, I had trouble getting my ring off as I'd gained some weight and the jeweler sprayed Windex on it, and it slid right off... well with maybe a little tugging...  But that does weirdly…"
Feb 27
MrsHill2015 replied to Dee1960's discussion Mediums
"I've never been more interested in mediums. I never believed in that stuff. Didn't care to go. And I've lost others close to me. But with my husband, my life partner, my rock, passing, I am a changed woman. The fact that he passed so…"
Feb 26

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At 11:07am on May 24, 2018, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, that widow in the pink house. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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